You make fair points, I'm not trying to argue with you here, I would say I almost don't even have an opinion on this as I am not really interested. But what would you say to someone who would tell you something like: "Yes your spell is definitively creating something real, but you are interfering with the other person's free will. He/She would love you after the spell is completed, but they wouldn't have before, and the before version is who they actually are and what they actually want, and who they actually are and what they actually want are their birth rights as human beings. And if you really love someone, you wouldn't impose your will on them..Also it's easy for you to do it on someone else, but how would you feel if someone you don't like at all made a spell on you and you would end up being with him/her?." I have heard people make these arguments against love spells.
I would reply to them that free will doesn't really exist for people that have no reached the Magnum Opus. Everyone is at the mercy of planets and their "whims". We SS have a limited amount of control on what planets can't do, sure, but that's still limited. Some things are completely inescapable as we are not "above" nature. We are part of it.
I could make the argument that they don't really know whether their attraction or repulsion toward another person is pure or influenced by enemy curses, media brainwashing and planetary transits. For all they know, I could be instead removing centuries of dross from their soul that prevents them from being attracted to me or whomever, just like when we repel all of their energies we are creating blockages preventing them from noticing us.
Many people don't even like 99% of the things they
think they like. They only
think they like them because their soul has been so corrupted by enemy programs (including curses) that they cannot tell the difference between the programme and their nature. Love, in the end, is just biochemical signals at the physical level. They can be caused even without any witchcraft at play. Just by manipulating others with specific psychology-based actions and words.
Gods and Goddesses of love do not rule the specific feeling/chemical response we are talking about but an energy-based concept that has more to do with interconnection of things than with modern romanticisation of words. In terms of procuring romantic partners, they specially put in place connections between the souls of the intended parties, prioritising souls based on compatibility and availability. Exactly what witchcraft does.
If anything, the whole morality and ethics of using spells starts from the self. It does not matter who you are trying to influence. What matters is that you are aware of things like compatibility, availability, etc. That you know yourself well and that you know others well. Getting into a bad relationship just because you have a crush on someone and/or they have a crush on you, and then ending the relationship because all you had was those chemical signals is no different than using a spell on someone who is incompatible to you.
It is a life experience. Like all life experience, you learn better about yourself and what work for you, and what does not. Without experience, you don't grow. Also, your partner who's 100% compatible for you may not be the person who's 100% or otherwise highly compatible 2, 5 or 10 years down the line. Why? Because people change. They grow, evolve, stagnate, devolve, decay. Both parties in the relationship go through cycles of change. Even with a spell to attract the "most compatible" person doesn't guarantee that that person will be with you forever.
When we talk about relationships, this an airy concept. It doesn't have the notion of stability within itself.
In 10 years' time, you may have grown into a person who's a low match for your partner, and you may need to attract another compatible person. This can only change if the person you decide to be with is committed to the same speed and scale of growth as you
and areas that are compatible to keep the relationship growing as well.
That of course doesn't mean you should shy away from relationships. It is important to grow in this area of life, and there is no growth in a vacuum.