You'll get there. Self improvement in every aspect you can manage will bring more self love, which is the love you need to work for first. Once you build that up, that confidence and self respect, wooing the ladies is no issue what so ever. And it's good to be picky and choosey, some are flat out energy vampyres and one has to be careful. Love is a tricky game for us, and twice as expensive of an emotion than it is to the average person!
King Asmodeus can actually help with that, but he's a very very busy daemon, so be patient if you want to seek out his help, otherwise, try going on walks, staring out at the world and nature, listening to it, inspiriation is everywhere. Your pineal chakra probably needs a little work, so look into that.
Keep studying them like Hellenic says and working on that little bean in the center of your brain, and
beware of astral static! Sometimes, you might be thinking you're speaking to a god when you're really just speaking to an aspect of yourself, so once you reach that point, know that if you can't see them in your mind and they're giving you no substantial information, it's just a part of your own mind tricking you. Our own minds like to play tricks on us sometimes. The more you study them, and the more you build your psychic abilities and the better you come to understand yourself, the stronger the link and communication will become, hard work pays off big time in this religion. You just need to stick at it buddy