This is a serious matter and you
must report it for your own safety! If you don't report it, the person who is hurting you will continue to do so or find other victims. I know this is difficult, and I am very sorry for you, but you must act now. Don't let this person get away with it. I don't know what your reasons are for not reporting this, but they
cannot be used as an excuse for you not to report him. Do not be afraid of him. This person must pay for his actions.
Fight for yourself.
You should report it immediately and it would be good if you had evidence. These may be, for example, written conversations (In my case, the abuser in the text he sent me admitted to committing a sex crime against me, so you can see what I mean. They can be also suggestive messages. Please keep such messages and make a copy of them), recordings, biological evidence, witnesses, etc. But if you don't have any evidences, don't worry. Lack of evidence is difficult, but
not impossible. This happens and police investigators will know what to do or ask when interviewing you. Your testimony is already evidence. They will assess the way you testify, whether you speak spontaneously or calculatedly, and your body language to assess the credibility of your testimony. This procedure is necessary, because there are cases of false accusations. Yes, it will be overwhelming for you, because they will question you in detail, but it is necessary. The more detailed your statement is, the more credible it will seem. There may also be a situation where they will ask you the same thing twice and you will have to repeat your whole story again. They may formulate questions differently, but with the same meaning, for example about the date of events. They want to see your credibility. The interview will be videotaped for court purpose.
You wrote before that your friends know about it. If so, they may be called as witnesses. It doesn't matter if they weren't present during crime. However, investigators can ask witnesses about what happened to you, what you told them (checking whether the description of the situation matches your description), your relationship with them, why they think you told them about it and not someone else, and what emotional impact it had on you. As you can see, your health is also important. By observing your mental state, the witness can provide evidence to support your testimony. My friend talked about bruises on my wrists, neck and that I avoided any form of physical touch. The investigators pay attention to this stuff. The witness's testimony may also be repeated, even twice, because they write down a report of their testimony. If you are undergoing treatment (like therapy for example), it can also be used as another evidence.
A psychologist may also be present during your testimony and can also help in the process of assessing the credibility of your testimony. From what I remember, she was sitting on the side, observing and taking notes in a notebook. After the whole testimony process the case will most likely go to court and you will have to wait. There is a court hearing, although I was not present at it, I don't remember the reason why and it's hard for me to say whether your presence will be necessary there or not. However, if your presence is required, you can always use organizations that help victims of sexual crimes, which can provide you with a lawyer. The lawyer will support you during the trial. Unfortunately, I cannot tell you what such a court hearing looks like because, because as I mentioned above, I was not present. This is what it looked like in my case, but it may also look different in any other country.
Now I must add, because unfortunately such situations do occur, your case may be discontinued. This is what happened in my case (despite the evidences and the perpetrator's confession), so I can understand why many women are hesitant and discouraged to report sexual crimes. It may depend on the country you live in, but in my case matters regarding rape or other sexual abuse are treated not seriously or with a light sentence. It may happen also due to lack of evidence. This
doesn't mean that this will happen in your situation, but I need to warn you that such injustice do occur. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't report it. You should deal with it as soon as possible and hopefully, in your case, the perpetrator will get what he deserves and won't hurt you or anyone else. If they dismiss your case, the best option is to distance yourself from him. Since he's your mom's boyfriend, they probably live together. I don't know how old you are, but if you are a minor, perhaps you would be able to move out to someone else in your family after explaining the situation? It would be good to isolate yourself from him for your own safety. Also, bring justice for yourself, if the court fail you. You are
not helpless, you have the tools to do this:
In addition to reporting, you can also:
- Get support from someone close to you. Your mom failed you and it's sad. Maybe you have someone else you trust in your family who could help you? It can be also your friends or trusted teacher. You need support and a sense of security, someone should be with you.
- You can also use a hotline for people experiencing sexual violence. These hotlines provide confidential and specialist help for survivors of sexual violence and can also offer therapeutic, legal, medical and support services. The support groups also exist.
- Healing and recovery takes time in the case of trauma. Therefore, you should focus on the healing process. Clean and empower your chakras, especially your sacral chakra. Build and clean your aura of protection daily.
Remember that sexual violence is a crime and you have the right to demand for the perpetrator be punished. You are not alone. The Gods are with you, whether you believe in it or not, and They want you to heal and be safe. Your life is precious, so don't let anyone hurt you. Bring justice for yourself. You will only suffer more by procrastinating and being passive, so it is important to act. There are many women and men who have experienced this and can help you too. If you have any questions or concerns, please write and I will try to help. I was in similar position as you before.