Crystallized Mushroom said:
Being a virgin doesn't make you an incel, it is how you respond to that fact. Sex is a human need and that is why the enemy tries to suppress it. There is the orgasm aspect, which you can solve with masturbation, and there is the romance or companionship aspect, which is probably what you are feeling when you want a partner.
Being depressed and apathetic are symptoms of low fire, same with low motivation, or feeling like it is wrong to have personal desires. On the opposite side, someone with too much fire would be too aggressive, overconfident, and be very demanding of others.
Having a tropical paradise with your lover isn't stupid, but it can be impractical. Your venus sign influences how you feel about relationships. Perhaps yours is in Pisces or aspected to Neptune. In this case, it would make you very romantic, but you have to be careful not to become deluded by a veil of perfection, such as either thinking someone is perfect or thinking things must be perfect.
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Your goals are fine, but what makes the difference is how you prioritize them and how you work towards them. Sometimes some goals have to be put on hold. For example, it would be a better use of your time to meditate and build up your fire characteristics with Saulo or Sun/Mars Squares than it would be to try to force yourself to have the motivation to do something.
Working with earth energy can make you more grounded, practical, and able to do the monotonous tasks that come with learning new skills.
Fortunately for you and many others, the Sun will be in Capricorn soon, and Mars will be in Capricorn shortly next year. After that, the Sun will be in Aries in March, and Mars in Aries in May. This is a huge opportunity to really develop your fire and earth characteristics, either through Planetary Squares or Runic workings.