Relationships #890 A girl I fall in love with...

[AskSatanOperator]

I fell in love with a girl who interested in occult and have a very clean aura and chakras, she is so deep and sweet. She is really perfect, everything I wanted. But there is a problem, she shows some attention seeking behavior and flirts with other guys as well when I ignore her a little bit, due to work or other reasons. I know I cannot fix anyone, and I don't know if that is something to fix, maybe she is just polygamous? But I want to work for this relationship, why is she acting like that or what can I suggest to her if that's caused by some blockages?

 

[Ĥl·lĥæ]

Yes, she's polygamous.
Staying with her only for casual sex, assuming she's problematic.

 

[SeguaceDiSatanas]

I fell in love with a girl who interested in occult and have a very clean aura and chakras, she is so deep and sweet. She is really perfect, everything I wanted. But there is a problem, she shows some attention seeking behavior and flirts with other guys as well when I ignore her a little bit, due to work or other reasons. I know I cannot fix anyone, and I don't know if that is something to fix, maybe she is just polygamous? But I want to work for this relationship, why is she acting like that or what can I suggest to her if that's caused by some blockages?

I don't know exactly why she behaves this way, but there are words of power that can be used to develop a positive and unique relationship without affecting free will.

Futhark/Odin

Futhark/Odin

Futhark/Odin

If used with the right affirmations, I don't think these Runes affect free will, and they can be used to forge beautiful positive bonds. At least that's how I see it.

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The Three Steps of Witchcraft

 

[Yang]

Maybe she just likes to relate to other people. But you have to ask her about it, talk it over and decide what's right for you.

 

[Pammy]

Are you married? Is she your betrothed? Did you commit to each other? Did you express you want to be the only one for her? Did she accept? You falling for someone does not automatically make them exclusive to you.

Also, what seems to be flirting to some people is just showing kindness to others. Smiling, laughing, engaging in conversation, kissing on the cheeks may be normal in some cultures and not in others. I “flirt” with strangers who I will never see again, someone who held the elevator doors for me, someone who was sitting next to me in public transportation, or someone who was just kind. Just a tad bit friendlier than being civil. It makes people’s day. In reality, it has been 3 years since I was involved with someone in any way. Is she really flirting, going out of her way to see them, get all pretty with makeup and dresses to meet them, giving them opportunities to make a step towards her, or is she just being social?

If there is something that makes you uncomfortable about her behavior and you wish to have a more exclusive relationship, you need to make the commitment. Both of you. If she is going to give up her not necessarily romantic social interactions for you, you have no right to “ignore” her. If her needs, including attention, are more than what you are willing to give, and your demands are too much for her, it is not going to work. This is how relationships are built.

 

[Pammy]

Yes, she's polygamous.
Staying with her only for casual sex, assuming she's problematic.

Polygamy is not when people flirt with various people until they find someone they can love. Polygamy is when multiple consenting people are in a relationship.

 

[HPS Lydia]

There are men and women who are just the flirtatious types, doesn't mean they are polygamous (where people are involved in multiple relationships at the same time), and it doesn't necessarily mean they will cheat. It's just a natural behavior for some people, it's how they socialize. I've seen this in a lot of older men too, so it's not just a young girl trait.

You can try talking to her about it, tell her how it makes you feel when she does that. She might be doing it to make you jealous, or to seek attention, or it might just be a natural behavior of hers.

It might be a negative behavior trait, or it might be an innocent behavior trait, depending on her culture or other factors.

 

[Ĥl·lĥæ]

Polygamy is not when people flirt with various people until they find someone they can love. Polygamy is when multiple consenting people are in a relationship.

Polygamy also works in this way.
A person who can't commit to any relationship.
That woman remains unsuitable (the man already feels uncomfortable, and will enter a relationship with unresolved issues)
This is simply putting yourself through pain because of a pretty face or because that person supposedly "likes" the same religious nature
(Couples of the same religious lineage won't necessarily work out)

 

[Pammy]

Polygamy also works in this way.
A person who can't commit to any relationship.
That woman remains unsuitable (the man already feels uncomfortable, and will enter a relationship with unresolved issues)
This is simply putting yourself through pain because of a pretty face or because that person supposedly "likes" the same religious nature
(Couples of the same religious lineage won't necessarily work out)

A person who cannot commit is likely to have commitment issues. Polygamous people in closed relationships still commit to their partners.

This person does not even call the girl “girlfriend” or anything that points that they are in a relationship. Just says that he(?) fell in love with someone and she flirts with other people. Without further context this seems a little delusional honestly. Assuming they did not define their relationship, he feels jealous over a stranger.

I agree that believing in the same religion does not mean the relationship is going to work out.

 

[AskSatanOperator]

Are you married? Is she your betrothed? Did you commit to each other? Did you express you want to be the only one for her? Did she accept? You falling for someone does not automatically make them exclusive to you.

Also, what seems to be flirting to some people is just showing kindness to others. Smiling, laughing, engaging in conversation, kissing on the cheeks may be normal in some cultures and not in others. I “flirt” with strangers who I will never see again, someone who held the elevator doors for me, someone who was sitting next to me in public transportation, or someone who was just kind. Just a tad bit friendlier than being civil. It makes people’s day. In reality, it has been 3 years since I was involved with someone in any way. Is she really flirting, going out of her way to see them, get all pretty with makeup and dresses to meet them, giving them opportunities to make a step towards her, or is she just being social?

If there is something that makes you uncomfortable about her behavior and you wish to have a more exclusive relationship, you need to make the commitment. Both of you. If she is going to give up her not necessarily romantic social interactions for you, you have no right to “ignore” her. If her needs, including attention, are more than what you are willing to give, and your demands are too much for her, it is not going to work. This is how relationships are built.

Yes, we talked about it. She was very excited and eager, and I told her that I don't always have time for her because of work. Sometimes I work overtime and I'm gone for a couple of days, and she said it's okay. But when this happens, she talks to other people.

Now, what I call attention seeking behavior is dressing in a very fancy way or organizing her social media in a very remarkable way. The way she dressed, I think she loves to show off her body. I don't know if I'm misjudging that and if I'm telling her not to do it, I'm suppressing and dominating her nature.

And the fact that they have a short period of intense connection, which I'm talking about here in terms of talking to other people. When I say flirting, I mean really flirting. Our sense of romance doesn't really match, I try to adapt, but it looks crooked on me, maybe she unconsciously looking for it in different people. She says beautiful words in a literary way and she hears beautiful words.

There are men and women who are just the flirtatious types, doesn't mean they are polygamous (where people are involved in multiple relationships at the same time), and it doesn't necessarily mean they will cheat. It's just a natural behavior for some people, it's how they socialize. I've seen this in a lot of older men too, so it's not just a young girl trait.

You can try talking to her about it, tell her how it makes you feel when she does that. She might be doing it to make you jealous, or to seek attention, or it might just be a natural behavior of hers.

It might be a negative behavior trait, or it might be an innocent behavior trait, depending on her culture or other factors.

Thank you, High Priestess. I have detailed the issue, now I wonder what you will think. If this is a problem, I wonder what it is and I want to help her solve it. By showing her how to do it.

 

[AskSatanOperator]

And she is my girlfriend, yes, and this is a new relationship.

 

[Pammy]

I don't know if I'm misjudging that and if I'm telling her not to do it, I'm suppressing and dominating her nature.

In a relationship she should comply some rules without being asked to. One thing to do is to let people who come too close know that she is not available. Does she make it clear in her social media that she is in a relationship? Or in those events? If she does, I wouldn’t worry much. If she keeps the status of your relationship unclear with other people and does these things, she might be looking for someone else like you thought.

You don’t really need to tell someone how to behave. If her interactions are innocent, it makes you the bad guy. If not, there is something faulty with her character and you shouldn't be with her to start with. Do you trust her, her fidelity and reliability? That is the real question.

Since she is interested in witchcraft you can offer to do a love spell together to strengthen your relationship. I think it is ethical to do a love spell only when there is already a relationship going on or when the person does it on themselves to attract a suitable partner. Trying to bind an unsuspecting person to you is weird, but you two are already in a relationship, so you can do it.

 

[logicalmind]

If both of you agree that you are in the relationship, then it is absolutely normal for you to expect some level of exclusivity. She can start by making clear to other guys she is not available in case they would try doing their own approaches. If she is unable to do that and you expect this, then it would be a fatal mistake from your side to try to adapt to this as you would go against your own nature which has nothing wrong by itself. It is also normal to clearly indicate that you are not single on social media, deleting from any dating apps or sites, and so on. What you expect is an absolutely adequate expectation. Forgive me for saying this, but... Love is like a fart. If you need to force it, then probably it is shit. And you seem to be forcing it by trying to adapt to things that normally are not supposed to happen in good relationships.