#864 If I had such strong feelings for this person, why am I feeling different now?

[AskSatanOperator]

I am in college and had been talking to an effeminate guy for a few weeks, I felt a very strong attraction to him both as a friend and thinking he was cute. I am also a guy and I have been attracted to effeminate guys since I was 16. I've kept it hidden from my dad since he is strongly against homosexuality and he would be very angry if he were to find out about me being bisexual. I have stopped talking to this guy now, as he has told me that he has been feeling uncomfortable around me (guessing that he's picked up on the signs of me being attracted to him), I'm assuming that it's because we haven't known each other for that long and because he has sensory issues since he doesn't like being hugged. The past few days I missed him so much to the point of almost crying, I had wanted to wear his coat and everything. I know that the whole idea of him being attracted to me on a spiritual level as well was most likely just wishful thinking now, but I am wondering what you all think about this.

 

[luis]

You just have a crush on a guy you think is cute. He seems to have an issue with it, so maybe he is not gay or bi? We are Spiritual Satanists here, you could do a spell to attract the best person for you. Of course, this will take time and you need to learn how to be a great partner too, so keep this in mind. You could even do spells to get rid of obstacles you may have to have a good love life and a great partner, this could help in many ways. It's up to you really and what you want to focus on in your life now.

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

It is not "sensory issues" for a man to not want to hug you. It's called not being gay, and it is not a problem. It is the normal way that almost all men are.

 

[aeons88]

When I said sensory issues, he said it like he had an aversion to being hugged or touched in general. He's very feminine. I wasn't implying that it would be considered "sensory issues" for him to not want to hug me. Sorry for making it sound like I meant the context in a different way.

 

[Deshasya Shasakah]

oh, something like that happened to me. recently. i had a colleague with whom we became very close. we were basically best friends, but we didn't see each other outside of work, we just talked a lot on telegram and he also gave me a ride home sometimes. he and i always hugged very gently and for a long time, i liked it so much, and he also asked if he could kiss me.... I didn't let him. I didn't want to, I didn't like him much, but now I miss him a lot... in general, everything was great until one moment, which I don't want to tell you about. then we sort of made up and argued again, but it was like we cooled off to each other, or rather he cooled off to me. and then at the very end of December he quit the job.... Yeah. we still talk a little bit on telegram, but rarely... and I think he's got a boyfriend.

I reassure myself that it's all fate, it's out of my control, I'm just trying to let him go and that's it, no matter how much I miss him.