We need an official thread on love.

[MercuryWisdom]

Hello, I’ve read a trending thread on SS procreation and also the community feedback thread by HP HC had most or many people struggling with love and finding a partner.

I’ve struggled with this almost all my life and it’s very painful. I don’t think I’ve ever been able to enjoy a relationship or was ever loved by someone before.

It’s not because I’m an ugly incel, I had many people and female prospects say I was amazing and that they’ve never met or will meet someone like me. I take care of my looks, workout, I’m making good money at a young age, and am ambitious.

Yet, I’m starved from intimacy and have been starving for many years, or maybe since forever.

I live in a difficult country.

I think many SS are also struggling with this heavily. I’ve seen support from the JoS before regarding financial matters and prosperity and official sermons, spells or threads. Can we have the same type of support towards love and romantic matters?

It’s one of the most important parts of my life to be fulfilled I want someone that helps me grow as a person and a soul.

High Priestess Lydia has been amazing regarding this topic, but I think we need something of more of a direct approach or sermon that also contains spells and workings we can work on to best get what we want and need in this area of life.
@HPS Lydia

I’m sorry if I sound demanding or anything this is far from the truth, maybe a suggestion or a recommendation and I’m also looking for advice myself.

 

[Jojo*Leo]

I too agree with this.

 

[HPS Lydia]

There will be

Love is very important. Two people working together can accomplish so much more than one alone. Nearly all of the people who accomplished great things in life all say it was because they had the loving support of a significant other in their life. Just having a loving relationship can propel people forward more than if they were single.

 

[Dragonheart666]

I agree 100%

 

[MercuryWisdom]

There will be

Love is very important. Two people working together can accomplish so much more than one alone. Nearly all of the people who accomplished great things in life all say it was because they had the loving support of a significant other in their life. Just having a loving relationship can propel people forward more than if they were single.

Thank you, High Priestess.

 

[Yurei]

It would be nice to have a thread to give advice to lonely singles like myself.

 

[AFODO]

In this case I would say it's karmic.

 

[Hs666]

...

I think that might help you in some way.

Read here: Love

 

[Soul Wings]

I am going to go on a bit of a philosophophical ramble here, I do hope that's okay, as I want to reassure you there are outside factors. Note that I don't speak for all women and these are merely observations.

Its a tough time looking for love even with our Satanic advantage. There is a lot of fear and anxiety out there for women [you can look at Bondi stabbings here in AU as an example, incel rampage, looming threats of war] in regards to their personal safety. And a lot of low quality/value men out there ruining it for the rest of them. Also, rental crisis and cost of living.

Fear and anxiety really ruins a woman's libido. Women generally need to feel safe and secure to be sexually open [sacral].

One would think maybe women would then seek "protection and provision" from men, but actually the opposite is happening [4B movement - total romantic and sexual rejection of men in South Korea]. I am beginning to think we are seeing the formation of the "anti-sex league" from 1984. You might laugh and say I am doomsaying since its just Korea, but women have done this as protest historically too in other countries.

The thing is, sex and romance can be a nice temporary escape from reality. Despite all of the above women still secretly want to be loved and adored.

I believe many others have recently covered any personal advice I could give you. Just know that a lot of it isn't you - it's world and personal situations/anxieties women are going through too. We need good men out there. Please don't give up!

 

[Soul Wings]

I have been meaning to use Tarot for you regarding this topic for a while, I know I have done this before but I have a different deck now. If you're interested, I have put my interpretations of the cards I pulled for you below.
Specifically I asked what is stopping you from finding a relationship. Or what is between you and relationship success.

Fear of being lonely or alone is smothering you and is a cycle you must break. Everyone here will understand feeling lonely. We are in a loneliness epidemic. There are steps we can take to alleviate these things, such as new/existing friendships, new hobbies, new experiences, and certain aspects of therapy. I also pray to the Gods and ask Aphrodite to guide me to the right person, to help me form relationships right for me. Just to name a few examples.

You have an incredible abundance of love to give and people will give you an abundance of love - please, never doubt this.
Because you have an abundance of emotion, this may cause you to try and move quickly in relationships. If a cup is very full, sometimes it spills over, and if it spills on others too much it can drown them. Keep a little for yourself. Allow a little mystery, let them wonder what you are up to, allow a "sexy distance" if you will. You came up as the page of cups so, I kind of get this picture of a guy holding a drink, dark and mysterious flirting with his eyes but not directly approaching until he has had a sip or two and taken in what he is looking at properly.

Have you actually decided what you want for a relationship in the short and long term? If this is uncertain, you may get into hazy relationships or draw hazy people to you. You may wish to meditate on what is important to you. Not just the major things like family and marriage, but what kind of person you want to be with, reflect on your morals, conflict resolution etc.

This one is pretty blunt but, if you believe you are limited in options, you will be. It is how the universe works. You also believe inexperience limits your options. You may need to go outside your comfort zone and do things, talk to people or go to places that you normally don't. It would be helpful if your beliefs regarding this changed.

You are wasting your time considering dating people who are completely incompatible with you/what you want. You can date people for experience but the reality is this should not be a limiting factor for the right person.

I also want to note that intuitively, your observations in your OP are correct.

I hope this helps you out.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

I have been meaning to use Tarot for you regarding this topic for a while, I know I have done this before but I have a different deck now. If you're interested, I have put my interpretations of the cards I pulled for you below.
Specifically I asked what is stopping you from finding a relationship. Or what is between you and relationship success.

Fear of being lonely or alone is smothering you and is a cycle you must break. Everyone here will understand feeling lonely. We are in a loneliness epidemic. There are steps we can take to alleviate these things, such as new/existing friendships, new hobbies, new experiences, and certain aspects of therapy. I also pray to the Gods and ask Aphrodite to guide me to the right person, to help me form relationships right for me. Just to name a few examples.

You have an incredible abundance of love to give and people will give you an abundance of love - please, never doubt this.
Because you have an abundance of emotion, this may cause you to try and move quickly in relationships. If a cup is very full, sometimes it spills over, and if it spills on others too much it can drown them. Keep a little for yourself. Allow a little mystery, let them wonder what you are up to, allow a "sexy distance" if you will. You came up as the page of cups so, I kind of get this picture of a guy holding a drink, dark and mysterious flirting with his eyes but not directly approaching until he has had a sip or two and taken in what he is looking at properly.

Have you actually decided what you want for a relationship in the short and long term? If this is uncertain, you may get into hazy relationships or draw hazy people to you. You may wish to meditate on what is important to you. Not just the major things like family and marriage, but what kind of person you want to be with, reflect on your morals, conflict resolution etc.

This one is pretty blunt but, if you believe you are limited in options, you will be. It is how the universe works. You also believe inexperience limits your options. You may need to go outside your comfort zone and do things, talk to people or go to places that you normally don't. It would be helpful if your beliefs regarding this changed.

You are wasting your time considering dating people who are completely incompatible with you/what you want. You can date people for experience but the reality is this should not be a limiting factor for the right person.

I also want to note that intuitively, your observations in your OP are correct.

I hope this helps you out.

Thank you Soul Wings, it was very helpful and accurate. You’re talented.

Greatly appreciated, will try to work on these points.

 

[april]

...

Hey. I want you to know that your feelings are valid. It's easy to get frustrated in a world where no one seems to understand or appreciate your true self. You may be drifting from periods of personal success to periods of suffocating loneliness, I've been there too. It's OKAY to want a partner that you deserve, it's okay to want to be truly understood and appreciated by your partner, because that's what relationships should be about; connections rather than transactions. You're not weak for wanting to be gently held and comforted by someone who deeply loves you, it makes you much more authentic and genuine. Most people try to repress their feelings of loneliness, it's good that you're aware of your craving for love rather than pushing it aside causing you trip over it later. It's human to crave connections. You were probably attracted to obsessive/"yandere" prospects because of your deep desire to be understood and to have someone of the same wavelength in terms of passion. This desire makes you want to overcompensate for your lack of received love by becoming your best self and pursuing stoicism, which is an unforeseen benefit.

In regards to your other thread on living in a third world country;

Our currency has lost 220% of its value since 2020 only. Prices has easily went up 1000x.

Then came other shit due to this not even related to skyrocketing prices. We had power outages on the daily by the government for 2-4 hours because we couldn’t afford gas.

The banks have already completely banned buying anything online in USD or in any foreign currency because we’re having a foreign currency crisis. I haven’t been able to donate to the JoS for 2+ years because of this.

I feel like I’m stuck and having serious financial blockages because the highest paying job in my country pays $300/month while the average wages don’t even exceed $150.

I also feel much worse because I really don’t know what the fuck to do. I don’t have a strong and reliable father. My father is a piece of shit, he and my mother are divorced he’s married to another woman and he wasn’t paying shit for me or my brothers for more than 5 years now he even sold one of our properties so he can get married and wanted to sell our home that we live in but my mom blocked him from doing so since my brother is under age. If he sold our home we could easily have nowhere to go and end up in the streets.

Me and my mother struggle every year to make ends meet she works extremely hard and I do as well. The Gods bless us and we survive.

I don't know how old you are but there are many opportunities for people like you in the US or UK (the US has hustler culture, they'd appreciate your ambition more), you have great English, you should search for opportunities/initiatives to immigrate with your family (or immigrate alone and send money back home) if you have valuable/needed talents which I assume you do since you said you freelanced and are a JoS member. A lot of companies there follow woke "diversity, equality, inclusion" agenda so they'd be more understanding. If you live in a country like Iran that the US is more strict regarding immigration then you could directly email/contact american non-profit organizations/institutions that could help you.
You shouldn't feel like a "coward" or "traitor" for moving out of a shitty country, others will say keep on hustling but that's just plain stupid.
Don't keep running in circles, you can't fix a broken economy.
You should take care of yourself. The stress associated with your circumstances is very painful and unbearable long-term.

All the best.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

Hey. I want you to know that your feelings are valid. It's easy to get frustrated in a world where no one seems to understand or appreciate your true self. You may be drifting from periods of personal success to periods of suffocating loneliness, I've been there too. It's OKAY to want a partner that you deserve, it's okay to want to be truly understood and appreciated by your partner, because that's what relationships should be about; connections rather than transactions. You're not weak for wanting to be gently held and comforted by someone who deeply loves you, it makes you much more authentic and genuine. Most people try to repress their feelings of loneliness, it's good that you're aware of your craving for love rather than pushing it aside causing you trip over it later. It's human to crave connections. You were probably attracted to obsessive/"yandere" prospects because of your deep desire to be understood and to have someone of the same wavelength in terms of passion. This desire makes you want to overcompensate for your lack of received love by becoming your best self and pursuing stoicism, which is an unforeseen benefit.

In regards to your other thread on living in a third world country;

I don't know how old you are but there are many opportunities for people like you in the US or UK (the US has hustler culture, they'd appreciate your ambition more), you have great English, you should search for opportunities/initiatives to immigrate with your family (or immigrate alone and send money back home) if you have valuable/needed talents which I assume you do since you said you freelanced and are a JoS member. A lot of companies there follow woke "diversity, equality, inclusion" agenda so they'd be more understanding. If you live in a country like Iran that the US is more strict regarding immigration then you could directly email/contact american non-profit organizations/institutions that could help you.
You shouldn't feel like a "coward" or "traitor" for moving out of a shitty country, others will say keep on hustling but that's just plain stupid.
Don't keep running in circles, you can't fix a broken economy.
You should take care of yourself. The stress associated with your circumstances is very painful and unbearable long-term.

All the best.

Thank you.
I wrote this a while ago. I’m doing much better now and feeling that I’m on a much better trajectory.

Best of luck to you too.