I had sex with 3 people in my life. This look like a joke, one time with a man, other with a prostitute, other with a girl,(this girl 2 times). Everytime I gave pleasure to my partners but never to myself. I don't know.
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I always had a sexual mess in my life, I'm male and I had intercourse with males in teens as I was abused as a kid and my unconscious mind was very confused - I think this has to do with previous life karma and similar problems. With years, I reached an acceptable sex life, I am not ashamed in writing this on here.
I personally think you may have severe hang-ups about sexuality, due to some trauma that happened in this life (childhood) or previous lives.
Gender confusion and inability to enjoy sex are strong red flags for abuse. The mind often deletes conscious memories about this so you may be unaware of this, but your unconscious is, and confusion arises.
This does NOT mean you have been abused for sure, but it is worth digging in your mind to see if it's the case. If yes, you will have to work hard for fixing problems and recover but this IS possible - I am a living example. The Gods never discarded me as a waste (some survivors feel like this) and helped me even in desperate times when I was unable to see a possible solution.
The point is - nothing of this kind of bad stuff is your fault. If someone abused you or simply played with your mind, while it was open to influence, it is not your fault. So you CAN and DESERVE to enjoy your sex.
Gender confusion can be fixed.
You may be naturally bisexual, but lack of pleasure leads me to think there is some internal conflict in you preventing that. You may be faltering between male and female sexual preference, due to mainstream teachings by one side, and unconscious damage or programming to the other side.
I would just sit down in void meditation, and try to talk to you "as a kid" to see if you can contact some of your repressed emotional sides, if any. Not really a "side" of you, I am still learning how this works, but if you have a fragmented personality and you discover a childish abused part, there we go.
I know it may be hard and difficult to admit, but it's one possible cause of gender confusion.
This happens because what your mind learns as a kid below 5-6 years old, remains for your whole life (unless reprogrammed).
If you have been simply exposed to porn movies as a kid, or you were in the car with an adult while he was meeting prostitutes, you may have learned this as a standard behavior that your unconscious emulates, as "this is life". Much worse in case of abuse.
In short, there must be a mind "program" running in background, in your unconscious, in conflict with your conscious will. This may cause lack of pleasure and confusion.
I seriously hope this is not your case, but it happens more often than people think, and each time I see this repeating on others, I always feel profoundly sad and sorry for this to happen.
But there is immense support from the Gods and always hope.
This is what I know and learned, hope this helps.