Principles

[Jrvan]

Remember how I said morality is a leash for many people? Well, so are principles. An inflexible, ironclad code could be holding you back. For example, let's say you have the principle to never gossip or share anything privately shared with you to others. There are circumstances where it would be the best thing to simply share it with someone else, but because you are bound by your own rule of not sharing other peoples' information that they have confided in you to share, you might suffer as a result and perhaps others too. This is what I call a self imposed leash. Not being able to bend your own rules when necessary has the potential to create situations that are really difficult and potentially hazardous.

Another example is politeness. Politeness is its own leash in my opinion, but I think we can call it a principle the way we observe it in society. When you have it as your firmly ingrained rule to always be polite to people, aside from making you extremely repressed over time both socially and emotionally, it can also hugely backfire on you when you come across people who don't deserve politeness. There's people in this world who would probably gasp in horror and look at you with an expression of shock if you suggested to them something like "Imagine being rude to someone." Inversely, some people rather than being polite for the sake of being polite, choose to be mean for the sake of being mean. Neither one is a good strategy in my view.

I have found that it's best and the most healthy to take people, relationships, and situations case by case. It makes navigating life a lot better and simpler when you aren't universally applying the same principles and rules to every situation. If you use the same protocol for everything in life then I believe you are much more likely to fail, and to fail more often.

Adaptability and being willing to be flexible with your principles when you need to be will make you much more successful in your dealings, I believe. Adaptability is key.

 

[Hp. Hoodedcobra666]

I think you are on this phase in life where you are shedding out things, but be careful than with the unnecessary, you also shed the necessary. This is a very good sign that one is advancing. We are forming ourselves further inside our mind.

Politeness is not a leash it's a manifestation of having a control over one's personality. The circumstance of use of course becomes pointless when this is not met by other parties.

In regards to modified morality [of which is 99% of fake Christian morality today] read Nietzsche and you will find useful ideas there. These are also open to interpretation.

Indeed what you say to "case by case" is a very important aspect in life. Every person is their own story.

 

[Jrvan]

I think you are on this phase in life where you are shedding out things, but be careful than with the unnecessary, you also shed the necessary. This is a very good sign that one is advancing. We are forming ourselves further inside our mind.

Politeness is not a leash it's a manifestation of having a control over one's personality. The circumstance of use of course becomes pointless when this is not met by other parties.

In regards to modified morality [of which is 99% of fake Christian morality today] read Nietzsche and you will find useful ideas there. These are also open to interpretation.

Indeed what you say to "case by case" is a very important aspect in life. Every person is their own story.

I'll be careful. I learned this the hard way years ago when I could have saved myself a lot of trouble and headache by being willing to compromise my own rule back then of not sharing information given to me by others. That part was speaking from experience.

When I spoke of politeness, what I had in mind was the stereotypical British variety of politeness that I've seen depicted. I haven't been to England so I don't know if it's true, but they look overly domestic to an absurd degree in my view with the way they are commonly depicted. I've long suspected it to be a product of xianity cutting their balls off, but I can't know for sure. It could just be cultural differences. The way it looks to me though, it is very problematic and limiting to an individual to be like that all the time to everyone they meet. It's my belief that each person should be treated differently depending on various factors, and according to one's own discretion. I don't agree with universal application of almost anything. Right tool for the right job sort of thing is my mindset.

Definitely going to read Nietzsche as I said before, no worries
I'm excited. From the brief excerpts I read in the past out of "Thus Spake Zarathustra" I recall being very impressed.

 

[tabby]

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When I spoke of politeness, what I had in mind was the stereotypical British variety of politeness that I've seen depicted. I haven't been to England so I don't know if it's true, but they look overly domestic to an absurd degree in my view with the way they are commonly depicted. I've long suspected it to be a product of xianity cutting their balls off, but I can't know for sure. It could just be cultural differences. The way it looks to me though, it is very problematic and limiting to an individual to be like that all the time to everyone they meet.
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I think this is the most American thing you've ever said. :lol:

 

[Aquarius]

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When I spoke of politeness, what I had in mind was the stereotypical British variety of politeness that I've seen depicted. I haven't been to England so I don't know if it's true, but they look overly domestic to an absurd degree in my view with the way they are commonly depicted. I've long suspected it to be a product of xianity cutting their balls off, but I can't know for sure. It could just be cultural differences. The way it looks to me though, it is very problematic and limiting to an individual to be like that all the time to everyone they meet.
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I think this is the most American thing you've ever said. :lol:

You are husband and wife and you couldn't just tell him that in real life?

 

[tabby]

You are husband and wife and you couldn't just tell him that in real life?

I did, I wrote it up and we had a good laugh about it.