Low self-esteem and the illusion of perfection.

[BlackEagle666]

Low self-esteem and the illusion of perfection.

If you aspire to fulfil your dreams, to have the freedom to be yourself, to evolve spiritually, to be able to walk your own path, you will never be able to live a fulfilled life unless you get rid of low self-esteem and gain courage and self-confidence.

We are born with an innate sense of strength, innocence and courage. As we grow up, society makes us form notions of perfection and imperfection. Basically, we have to create an idea that we can apply so that we can feel accepted by everyone...

Our parents, teachers, family and so-called 'friends' create expectations that we should give up everything and be without fault. Society uses the media to constantly expose us to illusory perfection, from advertisements informing us how outdated our stuff is compared to new products, to famous people advertising all kinds of stuff.

Comparation is one of the biggest obstacles to finding self-esteem. We use it to find another standard of ''perfection'' to discover acceptance. We compare ourselves to certain people and when we don't live up to the desired standard, we fall into the illusion that we are not good enough and give up... Wrong!

By trying to be good enough and trying to be accepted, we create an unreal image of perfection. In realising our imperfection, we reject ourselves.

Low self-esteem is a self-perpetuating cycle.
Feeling that we don't live up to our idea of 'perfect', we get a reason to justify our passivity.

Inevitably, this causes us to indulge in more self-abuse, leading us further and further away from our image of perfection (e.g. becoming fat, unemployed, addicted to drugs, lonely, mentally ill, etc.).

In essence, our desire for perfection cripples our ability to change and deprives us of the pleasures and joys of what an imperfect life offers.

Perfection is, in a sense, death. Yes, it literally is death.
If you think about the definition of perfection, it's when something/someone has reached their final state where they are incapable of evolution. Perfection is when something cannot be improved. In other words, stagnation...

Life is a constant fluctuation and everything living is always growing and changing. Throughout our lives, we learn even down to our last breaths. Think about it: at what point can we truly say that we are "complete", that we cannot improve anything? Only when we are stuffed into a coffin.

The desire for perfection has many side effects, the fear of failure being the main one. Fear of failure cripples our ability to pursue our dreams and passions.

What you do and the outcome of what you do shapes the image of who you think you are, or more simply: your self-worth. Regardless of who you think you are, what you do is something you have control over, something you can change and improve through practice. This brings about positive change in who you think you are, in your self-esteem.

The word "courage" comes from the Latin word "Cor" which means heart.
Nowadays, we use the word to describe heroic and incredible actions, but in its purest origin it means "to speak one's mind by telling all one's soul", or, in other words, to be emotionally vulnerable.

Self-acceptance is a way in which we forgive our imperfections, move past them, learn something from them and essentially become better. Low self-esteem stems from personal abuse and an unconscious and inherited lack of self-acceptance of who you are, who you really are.

We are not perfect but we can move forward and get through anything if we learn to learn from our mistakes and not judge ourselves so harshly. Everyone makes mistakes, but the most important thing is to not repeat the mistake and not give up.

Hail Satan!

 

[Alexandros Iowno [JG]]

It is very important to understand that when you are meeting with hard times, confusing and depressive states of the matters, you don't imitate confidence as a means of overcoming. This indeed is a way of overcoming, but not in this fashion.

The majority of the people confuse this problem as a notion of confidence, low self-esteem and related qualities of reactions, but the part responsible is lack of clarity, lack of sight and guidance. If you see the path with clarity, certainty and confidence is a natural consequence, but if you don't, being confident will only lead you to chaotic chance.

Every human reaction and sentiment is valuable, also those of "suffering" if used and not just consumed without purpose. I always said I am the happiest when I am sad.

A very good point within this post is that life isn't a quest for pleasure or suffering. Both will happen and are indispensable, we focus only on our reaction to them. Mortality can be your best friend if you reflect it upon the human condition. It led a lot of people to understand the spiritual nature of things.

Idealization is necessitated for creation, but if not acted upon, of course, nothing happens. It is a lethargy of the inactive feminine energy of the soul. If awakened, this idealistic nature finds the value to be manifested.

There are semantics and ideas that might need more thought on it, but I enjoyed reading this and it is a good ground of thought to evolve by. Keep up.

 

[BlackEagle666]

It is very important to understand that when you are meeting with hard times, confusing and depressive states of the matters, you don't imitate confidence as a means of overcoming. This indeed is a way of overcoming, but not in this fashion.

The majority of the people confuse this problem as a notion of confidence, low self-esteem and related qualities of reactions, but the part responsible is lack of clarity, lack of sight and guidance. If you see the path with clarity, certainty and confidence is a natural consequence, but if you don't, being confident will only lead you to chaotic chance.

Every human reaction and sentiment is valuable, also those of "suffering" if used and not just consumed without purpose. I always said I am the happiest when I am sad.

A very good point within this post is that life isn't a quest for pleasure or suffering. Both will happen and are indispensable, we focus only on our reaction to them. Mortality can be your best friend if you reflect it upon the human condition. It led a lot of people to understand the spiritual nature of things.

Idealization is necessitated for creation, but if not acted upon, of course, nothing happens. It is a lethargy of the inactive feminine energy of the soul. If awakened, this idealistic nature finds the value to be manifested.

There are semantics and ideas that might need more thought on it, but I enjoyed reading this and it is a good ground of thought to evolve by. Keep up.

Thanks for what you added. It's really nice to read your posts. I'm always learning from them.

 

[AlexElPM]

This is one of the best posts I read! You think exactly the same I think. What you say is in most of the eastern sacred scriptures.

That need of satisfying what we think our enviroment expects from us comes from the idea of thinking that things are 'good' or 'evil'. That duality. Our parents said to us: "Don't do that!" "Stop playing, you are being so bothering!" "You shouldn't act this way...". And then we started to think that there are a 'correct' and 'incorrect' way to act and live.

People add extra suffering to their problems because they think that being sad, angry or fearful is wrong. There is nothing wrong about feeling that ways. If one understands this, then the emotions are a lot more bearable.

And I think that you can extract some good things of every emotion. For example, I like to listen to sad music because sadness brings me inspiration and a sense of beauty. That doesn't mean that I'm on depression.

One shouldn't avoid uncomfortable emotions. What we need is a strategy to confront the situation. Express what you feel and then find a way to act despite feeling that way. Don't repress the emotion trying to be untouchable.

And that's the solution: self-acceptance. Destroying that idea of 'you must be like that' is what will makes us free. Fully accepting what we are and our entire inner world.