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Lunar Dance 666 said:AgainstAllAuthority said:...Dahaarkan said:While I can't attest to what he means by honor he does make a good point. Honor is a very loose term and it means something different to different people, but it is important for one to preserve their own mental image of themselves, or "self esteem".
A person's self esteem is a very important component of the human psyche and a healthy soul. Needlessly insulting, demoralizing and demeaning others with the intent to dismantle their self esteem can actually be quite damning especially for people who allow such thoughts to run rampant and taint their mental health.
While I agree that people should seek to stop fighting and de-escalate, I believe that the fighting should stop with the defender giving the last blow, not the attacker.
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Both parties' honors are on the line. The one that loses is fucked and ostracized from the community, because the other members of the community don't want to get into a fight with the winner(s).
I can sense that jrvan is naive, he's genuinely interested in the truth and the uplifting of the community, which is seen as weakness and thus an opportunity to attack (power play), or it's seen as an attempt to gain power (misunderstanding).
I think it's the latter (misunderstanding) and I'll explain why I think that is the case:
In jrvan's mind, since he's trying to help others, he gives himself the right to be more direct in his approach. As he's not trying to gain anything and he doesn't care if one takes his help or not (he's doing it out of a sense of duty), why tip-toe around a subject? He tries to help, gets attacked, then gets hurt and frustrated. It's like a betrayal to him and a knife in the back. But the frustration doesn't end there and it usually lasts for days, months if not years, which he unconsciously brings into the next exchange, which then leads to misunderstandings and more frustration. The difference this time around is that when he got attacked, he didn't just let it slide. He's not turning the other cheek anymore.
I think that HPHC should get involved and de-escalate the situation without any party suffering loss of reputation and honor because that's what's on the line now.
There are arguments in which "dealing the last blow" is completely impossible. Not because you are wrong but because the opposing party decides to troll the fuck out of you.
I think you're still rather naïve and inexperienced in this area.
Secondly, no one is going to take sides with winners or losers. This isnt kindergarten.
People may not speak out but just like in real life, you have people that will agree or disagree with you or those who are just "keeping up appearances".
People here are individuals and probably more opinionated and stronger than the average person. Sometimes this leads to clashes. But usually not so much of the "arrogant prick" kind of..
I can sense some frustration on your part but I invite you to not vent your frustrations on me. Such a speech is completely unbecoming of a woman.
You need to understand that it's gross for a woman to pick a fight with a man. The man can't win. If he beats her, it's not an honorable win because she's weaker. If she beats him, it's shameful because he got beaten by someone weaker.