Shadowcat
Well-known member
Different personalities often show different ways of doing things. We see this every day in the work environment, as well as at home and in public. We all are at one time or another not going to like the way someone does something, the fact that they do it, to begin with, or even not at all.
Despite the state of the world and humanity everyone has an inherent good inside them, even if it sadly doesn't always show very well. Any decent person that is trying to do a good job, achieve success, or do right by someone, will have ways of doing this that can be different from someone else. There are certain subjective things that one person can perceive as kind and thoughtful, that another can perceive as controlling, annoying or rude.
When mistakes are made in the workplace or doing any other job you will certainly have slobs out there that do not give a damn. But most good people and especially us SS want to do right by others, be successful and excel in all we do. Needless to say, If someone makes a mistake in whatever it is logical to assume that this is not on purpose or meant out of intentional laziness. Sometimes people can get even so stressed out about wanting to do a job right, (especially with little resources) that the circumstances have it that things can just fuck up.
Because people can also be selfish, impatient, and lack empathy and understanding, belittlement of the person who makes a mistake instead of supportive feedback and constructive criticism will follow. This is the type of coworker or boss who will act like it's the end of the world because some perfectionistic ideal has not been met that can even be completely unrealistic and will be a complete butthole to you for not meeting it, and will never forget it on top of treating you like you have always failed. These people are always insecure about something inside so to make themselves feel better they have to tear others down.
As an SS, giving criticism is an art to be mastered, an important one because when done right you will encourage your fellow SS brothers and sisters to grow and keep advancing. To do this however needs to happen in a way that makes them receptive to your message.
How to give constructive criticism:
-In the workplace, it's called "coaching." This occurs when correction is needed to point out an error or to help someone improve either for themselves or to help correct something on their part for the work environment or production as a whole.
-Do not begin by assuming that the mistake or "transgression" was made on purpose or done out of "laziness." I am talking about minor to even moderate mistakes, especially for someone new to the place or environment. This will automatically put you in attack mode and them on the defense. I guarantee nothing you relay will be received well or even registered. They will most likely let it go from one ear and out of the other out of spite.
-You don't have to sugarcoat facts to the point of twisting the truth (this is also not desired under any circumstance), but there are also ways to express or state something without basically being an asshole. For those "alpha chads" out there who think this is "pussy shit" well have fun being an unrelatable prick who no one will be receptive to or be inspired by in any way. Humans are not robots and need to be approached with consideration and compassion.
"That was a bad job it's awful how could you do this how is this possible?!" Vs. There have been mistakes here and this does not meet expectations. Is there something you are struggling with? Can you tell me why this is? Both state the same thing as far as the factual situation but the approaches are stark contrasts. I am sure any normal person prefers the latter.
-Give ideas of what you think will help prevent the mistake from occurring next time. Don't do this in a way that comes off as childish one-upmanship because this just shows classlessness and trying to tear someone down. "well we had it perfect in every way doing this, maybe your team is just shit!" Vs. "This worked well for us I think this could help you for next time!"
-If someone thanks you for your Coaching this is a good sign. They are being receptive to your feedback.
-Be realistic and understanding. You cannot expect things or everyone to be perfect. Human error is not the end of the world and the ones that you make out to be I guarantee are made by many others. It's not on purpose and people are trying to learn from them!
Positive feedback and Coaching are crucial to the development and growth as well as the advancement of an SS. Doing this the right way will make someone receptive to your message and this will allow them to be helped by viable things you have for them to grow from which is the point of this community so do it right, as well as offline. Try to look up to the Gods and the way they Coach and teach us and the amazing amount of patience they have for humanity (that also is not to be taken advantage of...)Model after them. Be kind yet truthful and patient. Be respectful and mindful, especially of your SS brethren. We are Brothers and Sisters in arms, and all deserve respect.
Despite the state of the world and humanity everyone has an inherent good inside them, even if it sadly doesn't always show very well. Any decent person that is trying to do a good job, achieve success, or do right by someone, will have ways of doing this that can be different from someone else. There are certain subjective things that one person can perceive as kind and thoughtful, that another can perceive as controlling, annoying or rude.
When mistakes are made in the workplace or doing any other job you will certainly have slobs out there that do not give a damn. But most good people and especially us SS want to do right by others, be successful and excel in all we do. Needless to say, If someone makes a mistake in whatever it is logical to assume that this is not on purpose or meant out of intentional laziness. Sometimes people can get even so stressed out about wanting to do a job right, (especially with little resources) that the circumstances have it that things can just fuck up.
Because people can also be selfish, impatient, and lack empathy and understanding, belittlement of the person who makes a mistake instead of supportive feedback and constructive criticism will follow. This is the type of coworker or boss who will act like it's the end of the world because some perfectionistic ideal has not been met that can even be completely unrealistic and will be a complete butthole to you for not meeting it, and will never forget it on top of treating you like you have always failed. These people are always insecure about something inside so to make themselves feel better they have to tear others down.
As an SS, giving criticism is an art to be mastered, an important one because when done right you will encourage your fellow SS brothers and sisters to grow and keep advancing. To do this however needs to happen in a way that makes them receptive to your message.
How to give constructive criticism:
-In the workplace, it's called "coaching." This occurs when correction is needed to point out an error or to help someone improve either for themselves or to help correct something on their part for the work environment or production as a whole.
-Do not begin by assuming that the mistake or "transgression" was made on purpose or done out of "laziness." I am talking about minor to even moderate mistakes, especially for someone new to the place or environment. This will automatically put you in attack mode and them on the defense. I guarantee nothing you relay will be received well or even registered. They will most likely let it go from one ear and out of the other out of spite.
-You don't have to sugarcoat facts to the point of twisting the truth (this is also not desired under any circumstance), but there are also ways to express or state something without basically being an asshole. For those "alpha chads" out there who think this is "pussy shit" well have fun being an unrelatable prick who no one will be receptive to or be inspired by in any way. Humans are not robots and need to be approached with consideration and compassion.
"That was a bad job it's awful how could you do this how is this possible?!" Vs. There have been mistakes here and this does not meet expectations. Is there something you are struggling with? Can you tell me why this is? Both state the same thing as far as the factual situation but the approaches are stark contrasts. I am sure any normal person prefers the latter.
-Give ideas of what you think will help prevent the mistake from occurring next time. Don't do this in a way that comes off as childish one-upmanship because this just shows classlessness and trying to tear someone down. "well we had it perfect in every way doing this, maybe your team is just shit!" Vs. "This worked well for us I think this could help you for next time!"
-If someone thanks you for your Coaching this is a good sign. They are being receptive to your feedback.
-Be realistic and understanding. You cannot expect things or everyone to be perfect. Human error is not the end of the world and the ones that you make out to be I guarantee are made by many others. It's not on purpose and people are trying to learn from them!
Positive feedback and Coaching are crucial to the development and growth as well as the advancement of an SS. Doing this the right way will make someone receptive to your message and this will allow them to be helped by viable things you have for them to grow from which is the point of this community so do it right, as well as offline. Try to look up to the Gods and the way they Coach and teach us and the amazing amount of patience they have for humanity (that also is not to be taken advantage of...)Model after them. Be kind yet truthful and patient. Be respectful and mindful, especially of your SS brethren. We are Brothers and Sisters in arms, and all deserve respect.