Jrvan
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This is going to be my own short guide for improving a man's quality and mating potential.
The very first thing you need right off the bat is self respect. I'm not going to go too in depth about how to develop this as there are many resources available online to learn from. Self respect is crucially important which is why it's first on my list.
Here are some basic things you can do which will help to develop self respect.
Next up is cooking. If you learn to make delicious complex meals then this will push you ahead of many other men in the dating pool. I like to buy cuisine cookbooks and mark in the book the specific recipes that I want to learn. Having your own quality spices and learning how to use them in the right quantities is essential. If you can afford it then also be sure to invest in your own quality cookware.
Outfits. Having nice quality wool sweaters for the winter, and linen clothing in the summer is what I recommend. Linen undergarments are traditional and superior to anything else you have ever worn. You wear the undergarments under something nicer like a vest or something. Tabby made a great forum guide for sewing if you want to learn to make your own. I haven't looked into it, but you might be able to hire a seamstress to make custom clothes for you too. Although even if you only learn how to mend clothes it's still a very useful and impressive skill to have. Start by learning to thread a needle, and then make basic stitches with a rag cloth for practice. It's not as intimidating as it seems, and there are plenty of video tutorials on the internet. In any case, wearing modern factory outfits like denim jeans and an ill fitting t-shirt is not a good idea. Sneakers are also not ideal. If you can find fashionable and comfortable footwear then make the switch. Brogues can be pretty nice and versatile. It doesn't necessarily have to be smart shoes, but you need some good quality footwear. Investing in different footwear for different occasions is a good idea. Leather sandals, birkenstocks, winter boots, chelseas, chukkas. You have a lot of options. There's also a growing market of barefoot shoes you could consider if you want, but I'm not going to open that kind of medical debate.
Make exercise goals and work towards them every day. Do what you can and keep building up over time. You don't necessarily need a gym membership for this. In my case, I try to do at least 40 push ups every day in 2 sets of 20. If I haven't done 40 push ups by the end of the day then I feel like crap. It's my baseline. I also keep charts, and when I complete an exercise goal I put a check mark for that day. I have one for exercise videos too in the winter time, and when it's summer I go running.
Skincare. You need to do your research, and work with your particular skin needs. This is essential though. At the bare minimum, if you don't do anything else for your skin then at least splash water on your face in the morning and evening followed by gently drying it with a towel. Even this goes a long way. You can also buy some coconut oil or essential oils and rub them on your body. Don't use coconut oil on your face though. Oh and avoid sunburn no matter what. Long sleeve clothing is useful for that. Sun hats/travel hats, or even parasols too.
Learn CPR and basic first aid.
Improve your vocabulary. Commit to learning 1 new word every day, and work on memorizing its meaning and adding it to your regular usage when you speak. There are websites that do a "word of the day" if you want to automate the process. Knowing and using bigger words can elevate you in life, and bring you into more advanced social circles. It's worth the time investment. Even if you're the type of person who thinks of people who use big words as snobs, you should do it anyway. Refining your language usage has many benefits. Reading books also helps very much with learning vocabulary.
Always be on the lookout for something new you can learn each day. You can attend seminars in your free time. You can listen to podcasts on your way to work. You can subscribe to blogs that you enjoy.
Get in touch with yourself and your emotions. Women want to emotionally connect with their men. If a man has good emotional health, and is also able to protect a woman and her children when needed then the woman will be very satisfied. Learning to be more emotionally expressive will not only make you a better man and more attractive as a partner, but it will also do wonders for your own overall health. Emotional expression and emotional release are very important for health. Suppressing emotions is unhealthy and damaging.
Be passionate, and find at least one major thing to be passionate about. Passion is very attractive.
Learn the art of romance. One example is that you can take walks in your local areas, and find your own secret private spots to sit and relax at. Sharing your secret spot with a woman you love and trust is really special. You can hang out there together.
Get better at taking care of others. You can volunteer in retirement homes and other places to gain experience.
Learn how to dance. This is way more important and useful than you might think.
Learning singing is more optional than dancing in my opinion, but it's still very useful and can add to your charm and expression. It will also improve your voice.
I hope this helps. Above all, be yourself and be in your own energies. Discover your own preferences and your own tastes. Love who you are and never forsake yourself, especially in favor of imitating another.
The very first thing you need right off the bat is self respect. I'm not going to go too in depth about how to develop this as there are many resources available online to learn from. Self respect is crucially important which is why it's first on my list.
Here are some basic things you can do which will help to develop self respect.
- Standing up for yourself. Unless you're in danger, don't choose to just brush things off or ignore things in most cases. If you let a slight against yourself slide then you are allowing yourself to be degraded without challenge.
- Take yourself seriously, and insist that others take you seriously. You're not a joke are you?
- Don't eat stale, old, or spoiled food items. Throw it away even if it feels like a waste. There's a mentality in a lot of guys, especially frugal ones, that makes them feel fine with damaging themselves. Every time you notice yourself doing something like this, stop immediately and tell yourself "I'm better than this."
- This is sort of a continuation of the last point. If you have the money to do so then avoid buying cheap store brands, or cheaper options in general. Develop the mindset that you are worth it. You will often get more value from the more expensive option, and it starts to create a different energetic state within your life and the quality of your home when you invest in value items. You can even lose money in a sense by choosing the cheaper option with a lot of things because it will break down faster. Depreciation is unavoidable, but the value you get by not having to replace something for as long can really add up in savings. If you get around 8 years of use out of an item then that's a long time to go without replacing it every 2 or 3 years with a different quality of the same type of item. That's just a rough example. The general rule even though exceptions sometimes exist is that "you get what you pay for."
Next up is cooking. If you learn to make delicious complex meals then this will push you ahead of many other men in the dating pool. I like to buy cuisine cookbooks and mark in the book the specific recipes that I want to learn. Having your own quality spices and learning how to use them in the right quantities is essential. If you can afford it then also be sure to invest in your own quality cookware.
Outfits. Having nice quality wool sweaters for the winter, and linen clothing in the summer is what I recommend. Linen undergarments are traditional and superior to anything else you have ever worn. You wear the undergarments under something nicer like a vest or something. Tabby made a great forum guide for sewing if you want to learn to make your own. I haven't looked into it, but you might be able to hire a seamstress to make custom clothes for you too. Although even if you only learn how to mend clothes it's still a very useful and impressive skill to have. Start by learning to thread a needle, and then make basic stitches with a rag cloth for practice. It's not as intimidating as it seems, and there are plenty of video tutorials on the internet. In any case, wearing modern factory outfits like denim jeans and an ill fitting t-shirt is not a good idea. Sneakers are also not ideal. If you can find fashionable and comfortable footwear then make the switch. Brogues can be pretty nice and versatile. It doesn't necessarily have to be smart shoes, but you need some good quality footwear. Investing in different footwear for different occasions is a good idea. Leather sandals, birkenstocks, winter boots, chelseas, chukkas. You have a lot of options. There's also a growing market of barefoot shoes you could consider if you want, but I'm not going to open that kind of medical debate.
Make exercise goals and work towards them every day. Do what you can and keep building up over time. You don't necessarily need a gym membership for this. In my case, I try to do at least 40 push ups every day in 2 sets of 20. If I haven't done 40 push ups by the end of the day then I feel like crap. It's my baseline. I also keep charts, and when I complete an exercise goal I put a check mark for that day. I have one for exercise videos too in the winter time, and when it's summer I go running.
Skincare. You need to do your research, and work with your particular skin needs. This is essential though. At the bare minimum, if you don't do anything else for your skin then at least splash water on your face in the morning and evening followed by gently drying it with a towel. Even this goes a long way. You can also buy some coconut oil or essential oils and rub them on your body. Don't use coconut oil on your face though. Oh and avoid sunburn no matter what. Long sleeve clothing is useful for that. Sun hats/travel hats, or even parasols too.
Learn CPR and basic first aid.
Improve your vocabulary. Commit to learning 1 new word every day, and work on memorizing its meaning and adding it to your regular usage when you speak. There are websites that do a "word of the day" if you want to automate the process. Knowing and using bigger words can elevate you in life, and bring you into more advanced social circles. It's worth the time investment. Even if you're the type of person who thinks of people who use big words as snobs, you should do it anyway. Refining your language usage has many benefits. Reading books also helps very much with learning vocabulary.
Always be on the lookout for something new you can learn each day. You can attend seminars in your free time. You can listen to podcasts on your way to work. You can subscribe to blogs that you enjoy.
Get in touch with yourself and your emotions. Women want to emotionally connect with their men. If a man has good emotional health, and is also able to protect a woman and her children when needed then the woman will be very satisfied. Learning to be more emotionally expressive will not only make you a better man and more attractive as a partner, but it will also do wonders for your own overall health. Emotional expression and emotional release are very important for health. Suppressing emotions is unhealthy and damaging.
Be passionate, and find at least one major thing to be passionate about. Passion is very attractive.
Learn the art of romance. One example is that you can take walks in your local areas, and find your own secret private spots to sit and relax at. Sharing your secret spot with a woman you love and trust is really special. You can hang out there together.
Get better at taking care of others. You can volunteer in retirement homes and other places to gain experience.
Learn how to dance. This is way more important and useful than you might think.
Learning singing is more optional than dancing in my opinion, but it's still very useful and can add to your charm and expression. It will also improve your voice.
I hope this helps. Above all, be yourself and be in your own energies. Discover your own preferences and your own tastes. Love who you are and never forsake yourself, especially in favor of imitating another.