Well with some people, it's there mom and dad. With others it's more.
It has been both family and friends. My grandmother was the most toxic in my family. She damn near ruined my childhood, I couldn't see how my mom could possibly have a normal life? And I could see why my mother, was always on the run, as a teenager. And why she chose to hang with her friends. And getting married at a young age, just to leave her folks behind, my grandparents were both very controlling people, very bossy.
Not to mention the fact they were converts to the Mormon church.
And my mother hated that and the rules. And so when my mother had me at the age of 19. She wanted to live in her own place. And at least she gave me choices. She was strict with me too but at least she was not toxic. My mother had more problems than I did. When it come to overcoming her fears and letting go of the anger she grew up with as a kid. And at least I had a chance to enjoy my childhood. Until we moved in with our grandparents. I was about 10 when I moved in. And my childhood was not the same. By that time I was pretty much a preteen.
And needless to say my grandmother got in the way of everything! When it come to guys and when it comes to dating, putting on makeup and enjoying the clothes and the fashion world, music,,lol you name it! Every day was a knock down drag out! I got into the biggest fights with my grandma everyday over the type of music I like. And having friends over, going out on a date. And school. She was always in my face about my clothes! Everything I wore was a fucking controversy. And if it wasn't bad enough she even raised my brother to be another replica of her and so he become toxic just as bad as her. So I had to put up with the two of them all throughout my high school years even. And needless to say! I would give anything. Just to be somebody else? Or to live a different life where I could be happier and be with people that are like myself. Those people who had it much happier was my row model. And my heart went out to those people who didn't have it so easy. And I know things could have been a lot worse.