Henu the Great said:
It's not that the Gods can not or would not help, but we would have zero growth if our challenges were erased by a higher being. Yes, they guide and even help us, but ultimately it is up to us to make our lives (and the planet) better.
-I was brutally abused.
+It was for your growth.
Do you really think this approach is helpful? I don't. The world is full of suffering that doesn't make anybody grow. I always have Junko Furuta in my mind when somebody says they are in pain. Her case made a huge impact on me. I keep thinking about her, years later.
I kindly ask moderators to censor this section as they please if they find it too brutal. I'm going to use google translate, I don't want to write it myself.
''She was kidnapped at 16. She was raped more than 400 times. Starved and suffered from malnutrition. She was fed with cockroaches and made drink urine. She was forced to masturbate. Forced to undress in front of others. Her various body parts were burned with a lighter. Foreign objects were inserted into her vagina and anus. Severely beaten several times. They bounced on her head after making her lie on a hard concrete surface.They tied her hands and used her as a punching bag. Her nose was filled with so much blood that she could only breathe through her mouth. Dumbbells were placed on her stomach from a height. She vomited when she tried to drink water (her stomach couldn't accept it). She tried to escape, they pressed cigarettes on her arms as punishment. They poured lighter fuel on her hands and feet and set them on fire. A glass bottle was inserted into her anus, causing serious injury. She couldn't stand on her own at the day 20. They beat her with bamboo sticks. They placed fireworks on her back and lit them. They stuck sewing needles into her breasts. Her left nipple was torn off and destroyed with a pliers. A hot bulb was inserted into her vagina. Experienced heavy vaginal bleeding from scissor insertion. She was no longer able to urine properly. Her injuries became so serious that it took her an hour to crawl to the toilet. Eardrums were severely injured. Her brain had shrunk significantly. On day 40: january 1, 1989: she begged her torturers to kill her. She spent the new year's first day unable to get off the ground. She had extremely serious injuries on her body. Day 44: January 5, 1989: The kidnappers beat Furata with a barbell, using the excuse of losing at a mahjong game. Excessive blood began to flow from her mouth and nose. They put candles in her mouth and eyes. Then they poured lighter fuel all over her body and burned her. The final torture lasted 2 hours and Furuta died of shock as a result of her body fluids evaporating due to the fire. They threw the body into a barrel and poured 50 gallons of cement on it. Later, this barrel was found by the police and the criminals were caught. Seeing the news about her daughter on television, her mother fainted on the spot and was subsequently taken into psychological treatment. Those who committed this act, 4 individuals under the age of 18, are no longer capable of being called human, and they are sentenced to 20 years in prison, according to the penalties given to minors in Japan. This is the heaviest sentence given in Japan after life long imprisonment.''
I'm not the same person since the day I learned about her. I apologize for putting this here but it is something hard to keep in. I guess whether it is our pain or other people's pain, we want to share and find comfort in the company of each other. I can't help her but I want more people to know about her and be mad and sad for her sake. She lived through this and I can't even stand reading her story. She deserves more, she was so brave, she tried to escape while going through this and I just, she deserves to be heard and be remembered.
So when someone says they are abused, I always think about Junko Furuta. Yes it is an extreme example but must give an idea about how deeply the person you are facing could be wounded. And I don't think mistreated people deserves to be answered something like it is necessary for their own good and growth.