It is difficult for people to find authentic relationships due to the lack of depth most people have on top of being selfish and only caring about themselves. Alot of people do and say things without considering the impact it will have on others and don't care.The Western world especially has been brainwashed to be lazy and decadent, and basically to feel entitled to expect the best for nothing or to want nothing but instant gratification. Tinder and other swiping apps have not helped with this. People are being filled with and preoccupying themselves with useless nonsense and don't even know the first thing about a deep meaningful conversation anymore.
Abramahic ideologies about humanity and sex are two huge factors that get in the way of treating someone properly, hence the many men, even nonreligious ones that see women as subservient subconsciously, as well as sex toys. Men are expected to be unstoppable emotionless robots with burnout being unthinkable and to just "suck it up". Feminism has ruined women by telling them they are entitled to enter and participate in the outside world without shouldering its responsibilities and consequences. Men and women and people, in general, don't know how to treat one another and only care about being right or having the upper hand.
Sex and nudity are often issues of shame, and with the exception of many parts of Western Europe, the two sexes are not socialized properly at young enough ages to get to know each other in ways that would foster mutual understanding and compassion for the way each one sees and experiences the world, ultimately helping them to understand and form bonds with one another. In muslim countries, men would rather rape little boys and hold hands with one another than even have a woman casually stare at them for a split second.
There are also people who think sex as a whole is literally about conquering, competition, and humiliation which is a very low-minded and defiling mindset to something that is a most sacred act between not only two souls but also a symbolism of the completion of the human soul itself combining the female and male sides, as well as representing the very human life force.
Yet, people these days look at sex literally as something to be done as if they have to compulsively take a shit and then forget about it, as if it was an itch to scratch and nothing more, which plays a big role in why you find almost no one that can be monogamous in thought and action for life. Capacity for casual sex gives the capacity to cheat with low impulse control, especially if they are prone to drink and doing drugs. Stay away from people who like to "party."
inb4 the protesters reeee, and seriously no offense guys, but people who live this lifestyle are free to do so but would be dishonest to approach someone for monogamy because they would just end up feeling like they were in jail eventually and to the expense of the one that committed to them. The issue is though, that people in general have been programmed into an instant gratification mode which hurts prospective people wanting to form deep relationships with someone who can ultimately form families.
And lastly and perhaps the most controversial part of it. Many people are not actually attractive physically, (granted some factors are subjective while others are not..) not only due to general poor genetic hygiene which also contributes to many ailments, which adds insult to injury in many cases to this, but also largely due to a sense of entitlement and laziness.
Trash like the body positive movements, being lazy about personal hygiene, gluttony over sustenance, and just with seduction and allure being a lost art in general. Things like preferring porn and other outlets of fantasy will sadly continue to reel people in for an escape from the void they feel while also coming in between partners who have settled for less than what they really want because it honestly isn't there, which is because no one cares to work to make it manifest while hoping for the best for themselves. 5 to 6's will get pissed when an 8 turns them down because they think being as they are should be enough which is entitled and selfish. You have to be what someone else covets if you covet them first. It's only fair and it isn't rocket science.
A fat cow of a woman will get pissed if a tall good looking guy turns her down for her weight, but will not take someone who doesn't have his features, and do nothing to improve her own self to attract him. Often coupled with muh mysogynyyyy big is boootifull deerp! Conversely, a guy who is gross with poor hygiene habits, fat or just generally does nothing with his skin and hair or the way he dresses will get pissed when the girl with the perceived perfect body in his eyes turns him down and start to trash her. Harsh but true, this aspect means the difference between lovers and housemates and no amount of muh emotions or social engineering is going to change this. Every creature in nature is subject to this and humans are not exempt. if this applies to you do something about it to the best of your ability. This does not mean you have to be perfect, it just means do the best with what you have got to your greatest potential in this life. Venus and mars squares will go a long way carrying into next lifetimes.
I cannot count how many people I have seen when I was still trying to date, who would give the middle finger in their profile, or cover their faces with classes and hats, or even hide in a crowd of people in their pictures. I have seen I am an asshole" literally written on someone's profile...such positive advertising. Don't get me started on the people who are too lazy to write a legit bio and instead put "HMU" or "
". Knowing actually how to have sex appeal, along with actually knowing how to connect to someone and take interest in them without having the attention span of a knat is a lost art and in my humble opinion a societal epidemic due to the implications it has. Look how many people end up alone. For many facets of society, these are not good things at all.
All is not lost however, as we are fighting for a world to lift humanity in all its facets, in the way we live, socialize, and think. Evolving spiritually will take care also of many other things on their own, including any and all aforementioned things here. SS who empower themselves have a chance to find a needle in the haystack but do not be discouraged if it does not happen in this life, it can still happen in the next. Just do your best to advance and like will attract like ie someone will come along sooner or later who is positive to your existence in all ways when an opening provides.