Invasive thoughts do happen. In another thread I mentioned recently that I had invasive thoughts regarding something on that topic. Invasive thoughts and doubts are weapons used against us, plus our minds are stubborn - the mind doesn't want to change. It would prefer to stay as it is. 'You can't teach an old dog new tricks.' Well, you can, of course, if you know how to.
The important thing to do is continue on working and meditations, even, or especially, when not feeling things or seeing results. Expectations can also be disappointing, which makes us doubt, as well. Doing gym work won't give you your results very quickly.
Another important thing is to ignore the invasive thoughts. Don't give them any attention. Push them out gently, rather than forcing them out, and then re-focus your attention on your work. It may be that it takes weeks or months of consistent power meditation to break the hard nut shell of our current minds, and advance our Souls. For others, it could take more than a year, if necessary.
When I say being ready for it, I meant Spiritually, as well. We might be very ready to have a lover in some ways, but if our senses are not working, then we can't interact with them. Try to imagine all of your five senses not being there - how in the world could you possibly interact with your lover? No seeing her; no hearing her; no feeling her; no smelling her; and no tasting her. It's not possible. Our Astral senses must be opened and empowered properly, as well. We don't have only 5 senses.
With having being lied to, and not taking into account anything else you said, that tells me you are very much not ready in some ways. I don't doubt you are ready in some ways, but in other ways you are not ready. Having opened our Third Eyes helps us to see lies and not be deceived. Don't be disheartened, though - you can gain so much pride in working Spiritually.
As you said, you can't hear any Daemons/Daemonesses. I presume you can't see them, either. Sorry to say, but in these ways, you are not ready. You can become ready, though.
I think you should treat your meat with love and care! Be careful, lol. It's not a bad idea to masturbate and offer your sexual orgasm energy to a Daemon or Daemoness.
You could use a ouija board, but they're not that great. Advancing your own self is much better and much more accurate than using ouija boards and pendulums. Our own input into them can influence a result or answer, and enemy entities can and do pretend to be a Daemon/Daemoness, giving us false information and interfering when us.
You should do consistent power meditation. If the wanting of a Daemones lover can spur you on to be determined and work hard, then let that be your fuel. Also - any potential Daemoness lover you might have a relationship with would know that and would be proud of you. Just imagine, as I said, you and your Daemoness lover meeting physically, in the flesh one day, after being light-years apart in a love relationship. How amazing would that be? It certainly should also be a celebratory event.