My parents are bad people

[Сатаца]

My father has been a huckster since the nineties. He did not have a mind and does not have one. Toothless, fat, did not know Russian and now does not speak it very well. He set fire to houses and, possibly, people in them. Everything... he was a tyrant at home. Life, of course, punished him. It seems that there is something unclean in him that devours him. My mother is a mixed Slavic. She is of Russian, Bulgarian and something else, bloodlines. She married a God knows who. He doesn't even know his own nation. It looks like an Eastern European, not a Slav. The mother was ready to tolerate that her child (my older brother) the father beats, and their conditions were not the best for the child yet. Do you know why? because he bought her a fur coat. She often beat him herself. She was 18 years old, and he was 25. She got pregnant after two months of dating.... Government also took my older brother to the orphanage, but they kind of brought him back. After the nineties, my father doesn't work at all, because he can't do anything, he sits on my mother's neck. We have a family album. You know what? There is the first photo of their drunkenness, where the mother is almost naked and the child. Anyway, I can't pour all their shit out here. My grandmother was a pure-blooded Russian. Yes, she is 100% pure-blooded, but she married 100 mixed bloods who beat her because she is Russian. Why do my great-grandfather and great-grandmother have such stupid and ignoble children??? My great-grandfather served as an officer in the Tsarist White Army and fought against the Reds, logically. My great-grandmother was a merchant. They either died of the Reds or left. I asked my mother even further about my ancestral tree, but she hardly remembers her grandmother's last name. Shame.
I don't recognize any blood in myself, except Russian, but I won't give birth because of the materialistic fact that I'm a half-breed.
My parents have two more children. It's the middle brother and me. My middle brother is 20 years old... it's terrible too! Father number two! Ill-mannered, ugly, doesn't work or study anywhere. My mother is quite wealthy and she can let him pay 50k₽ every month for her son's university, but his first day was kicked out because he hit some kid. The youngest is me. Even my cousin married black, and she's white and he's plus minus 15 years older than her. My most normal relatives end with my great-grandfather and great-grandmother.
Is it possible to disown father and mother, grandmother and grandfather? It's hard to bear such a shame!
So sorry for mistake in my text

 

[The Alchemist7 [JG]]

Is it possible to disown father and mother, grandmother and grandfather? It's hard to bear such a shame!

If by this you mean to "break legal and familial bonds" with them as your parents and grandparents, I think this is most likely not possible but it depends on the law where you live. However you do not need to do any of this. Is a lot better to focus on your path, career, advancement and keep a good and supportive relationship with your parents if possible. If you have a very bad relationship with them or if they are a very toxic and negative presence in your life then you can try to reduce interaction to a minimum and prevent them from negatively interfering into your endeavors, IF the situation is that bad.

 

[Ælberiigor]

Is it possible to disown father and mother, grandmother and grandfather? It's hard to bear such a shame!

My parent are not so bad but toxic for me. All efforts I've been made in their direction have been bad for me.

As I approached forty, I had to get away from them because either I continued to loose energy and wasting my life 'pleasing' them or I took care of myself, to be constructive.

Through their attitude to their children, parents 'programme' children.
When parents are bad, disrepectuous, abusive, infantilizing... and only that, you must then deprogram yourself, and it's long to understand, accept and so on.

So, you may learn as soon as possible to be responsible and autonomous, self-sufficient so as not to be overtaken by their decadence and imbued with vices.
Later, you can visit them once or twice a year, but not for long.

 

[Nova666]

let it all go! that's all you can do. I left my mother there when I was very young. she was an alcoholic, like all the women in our family. of mixed nationality. Hungarian, Jewish and Swabian plus Gypsy. Of course, the Jewish gypsy came out on my mother...we couldn't stand each other. then one day we had a fight, I defended myself, then he immediately put me on the street. I did well because I became free, and for me it was the greatest gift.

 

[Viego]

This life, is your life, focus on your self, be who you want to be, ignore your parents opinions . You build yourself as you want not as they think it would be best for you.

 

[Dragonheart666]

I even have things about my family that I don't like.. it is unanimous! We all as individuals express it. And we all have some kind of a problem with our families at home. And not two people are alike. And every family is different! And every family situation is different. I had to learn to accept it as it is. And I had to learn to get used to my own skin and learned to accept myself as I am. In spite of it all. And that's what makes the warrior within us! Learning how to face our problems head on. And we make our choices whether we want to stay or leave? And at this point! You just do what you have to do.