some one said:
I just read all your comments on this page, so now I understand what your point is, and I will talk about your point in a reasonable and respectful way, with no jokes and no exaggerations. There is a difference between sex and abuse. I agree with consensual sex, but I do not agree with abuse. Even if the victim of that abuse has been mentally conditioned into thinking that it's okay. And sometimes this abuse happens at the same time as sex, but that does not turn the two actions into one. You seem to just be lumping all these abusive actions into the vague category of "sex," then saying "Well all consensual sex is good, so it must be a good thing." I don't see it like that. I see sex and the abusive actions as being 2 seperate things, and I do not agree with the idea that abuse like that is okay. I'll put a quote from Stormblood that lists some of these abusive actions, (all of these that Stormblood listed, you have said that you think they are all perfectly acceptable and healthy), and then after that I'll add some more things to that list to make the point more clear. Things which some people try to promote as fetishes, but I consider as the most horrible abuse.
Stormblood said:
So according to you these are all healthy sexual expressions if they are consensual:
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- beating your sexual partner, making them bleed and giving them bruises.
- cutting them and making them bleed
- peeing on your sexual partner or allowing them to pee on you
- licking dirty boots with dry mud on them etc.
- use your partner as a footstool
- putting your partner on a leash and walking them around
- choking your partner
- putting your partner into a cage
- whipping them for not doing as you say
- having someone dress in priest robes and force crosses up your ass (this is the weirdest I've ever read)
- [insert any other violent or degrading behaviour]
Very interesting. I've seen that and much more advertised in fetish communities and treated as normal. If that's the case, I've nothing more to tell you. Especially as you're so much on the defensive.
-giving your partner injuries like cuts, scars, black eyes, pulling their hair, draining or drinking their blood, breaking bones, pouring boiling water on them, purposefully causing pain or injury in any way physically, mentally, or spiritually
-choking them until they are unconscious
-using them as a toilet, peeing on them or into them, shitting on them or having them eat pieces of shit
-being emotionally/spiritually damaging to them. Treating them like garbage, lowering their sense of self worth and power, conditioning them into the mentality of a worthless slave, taking away their power, financially trapping and isolating them, blocking them from contact with friends and family, turning people against them, getting them to have a negative view of themself, getting them to give up on life and be accepting of abuse, breaking down their lifeforce and turning them into a defenceless slave with no more will for it to stop, or anything else like these.
[Someone], it seems like you accept all these things. It seems like you just consider all these things to be just innocent sexual fetishes, and you just think
"ALL sexual fetishes are acceptable and good, so you have to accept everything on this list, even if you don't personally agree with it."
I have an absolutely opposite opinion of all this than you have. I consider the things on this list to be absolute pure psychopathic evil. And just because these evil things happen to be done at the same time as sex, and within the context of sexual activity, does not mean that these pure evil psychopathic actions are acceptable or healthy. These abusive actions
are not a sexual fetish, but some degenerates think that they are. They are evil and abusive actions, which sometimes happen along with sex. But
these things on this list are not healthy, consensual, acceptable sex!
I disagree with abuse, I disagree with evil, I disagree with cruelty, and
I think it is absolutely discusting and sickening for anyone to be trying to use Social-judeo/Marxist type psychological reasoning to try to convice anyone that these evil actions are to be accepted!
In the same way that a drunk person can not consent to sex even if they feel like they want it, nobody can consent to being abused. Because if they were to consent to abuse, that only means that they have already been abused for long enough time that they have given up all will to fight back. They have given up their self worth, and they do not have anymore lifeforce left to make them stand up against it. Or, even if they want the abuse to stop, they feel like they are trapped and there is no way out of it, so best to just go along with it. Because fighting against the abuse would just make the abuser mad and they would hurt them even worse. In some cases, someone has been abused for such a long time that they have convinced their mind to enjoy it. As a coping mechanism to deal with it, the pain is never going to end so make yourself enjoy it and it won't seem as bad. Some of this is from past life karma, and some of this is still developing.
These people need help! They should not be in these abusive situations! This abuse can not be thought of as acceptable or healthy, it must be hated as the absolute evil that it is! And the last thing these victims need is for some jackass like you to think that they deserve to be in their situation, or that it is okay in any form. That type of attitude is one of main the forces which has gotten them to accept all the abuse and not try to fight against it anymore. Because who could you tell? Who could you ask for help from? If they would only tell the victim
"It's fine! It's not the ideal, but it is an acceptable form of relationship that happens sometimes. Besides, looks like you consent to it! It's happening, you have not stopped it, so obviously this is what you wanted anyway." This is the fear of being rejected that traps many of these people and causes them not to ask for help.