Bravera said:
It was only half a month, but each day was so full of life. She had problems, serious ones, I wanted to show her my strength and intelligence, that I could help lift her out of this pain. I do believe she really did like me, maybe it was even true when she said she loved me. I was sure I had found love..
I looked past all of her problems, and honestly I feel sick and drained right now, my stomach is queasy and losing her made me cry. But, I have a renewed hope in finding true love.. a renewed hope in chasing my goals with the full strength of whatever youthfulness and soul I have remaining.
I thank the Gods for guiding me through this relationship, I won't give up on love.
Why would you want to look past her problems and think to yourself that you should fix a person with serious problems as you say.
Life is not a movie. If you attracted a woman who had serious issues and you tried to fix her in order to feel like you're also valued by her ,this just means you have some serious problems as well.
Like attracts like. If you have low character or abilities in your life you will have insecurities and you will attract woman who have insecurities as well.
This is the most delusional mindset that men have where they feel inclined to form these toxic relationships because they have low value themselves.
A high value man does not pick broken women and try to fix them. A high value man has a variety of high quality options and he picks the best quality one who has the best compatibility and demonstrates highest value to him.
Words are used to inflate and conflate feelings.
The best phrase a player can use to make a woman love him is "I feel a genuine connection with you. " ,"I feel you're special" ,"I feel we have chemistry. "
All of these are catchphrases. And if you fell for this from a woman it means she was probably traumatized by a player before.
You have to look at the actual facts of the situation.
She did not respect you.
She did not love you.
She saw you as a Beta male rebound and now after USING you she's going to go to a man who can actually lead her and demonstrates higher value.
Words can be very easily used to lie. Look at their actions.
If she loved you really, did she start cooking for you ? Did she start cleaning your clothes without you telling her ? Was she initiating sex ? Was she very inquisitive about your life and starting conversations with you first ? Was she happy, smiling and Ecstatic around you ? Did she introduce you to her family and friends ?
By looking at your words about love it's clear you believe in the delusional Disney Fairy Tail of love.
Average women have a lot more experience in love than average men. Men have a very idealistic view of love while the women have a very opportunistic view of love.
You need to CHOOSE to love from a position of power not SCARCITY.
If you're a high value man. And you have a very likeable Disposition that women are attracted to. And you have OBJECTIVE facts behind your value like money and resources ,then you have OPTIONS.
Multiple women will try to get with you on the basis of your value and compatibility. In that Scenario you can choose to love a woman who is the most beautiful ,the most compatible and the most giving in terms of value.
Let go of the view of Idealistic love. It is poisoning your relationships and interactions with women.
You have to be a WINNER and you have to have a WINNER woman as a counterpart. Losers can't be choosers, remember that.
https://b-ok.asia/book/1109611/cc0223
Do a working to rid yourself of your Idealistic vision of love and become REALISTIC.
Do workings to develop yourself as a man physically, monetarily and socially.
Then do workings to a attract a high quality COMPATIBLE mate ,not something which has issues of problems.
Strive for perfection. Love needs to be deserved.
If you have the need to try to fix someone else to feel loved then it could mean you have psychological issues from your childhood.
https://b-ok.asia/book/1107619/89aaed