If you are no longer happy in your relationship. Then be a man, suck it up and go to her and tell her. If it means divorce then so be it.
As for the child.. YOU NEVER, NEVER , NEVER, SHALL I REPEAT NEVER.
Stay in an unhappy relationship because of the child!!!!
This never does anything but harm them.
They get to grow up knowing their parents hate each other. Having to deal with the fights and unhappiness. Then its all blamed on the child. I was unhappy for so many years.. Because of YOU. That really helps the esteem of the child, even if handed to them in a nice package.
Instead mommy gets a boy friend and Daddy gets a girl friend. Everyones happy. The child goes and sees BOTH parents. Gets a step mom and step dad.
Gets use to the idea that their parents just were not meant to be. And everyone is happy. The child is not left with guilt that THEY caused unhappiness. Everyone wins.
This is just cowardice. You want a better life? You want to be happy? Then CHANGE IT. But going around trying to find an affair unbeknownst to your wife, So she can see your Heathen ways producing unfaithfulness. To show your child that your unchristian ways have produced the betrayal to your lovers trust and love commitment.
Which will cut like a knife at the heart of your child and sting with the bitter stain of betrayal to them as well. Simply put you are on the verge of fucking your whole life up and destroying everything you hold dear. For the simple desire of Sexual intercourse with another Female.
People get with others out of the act of loneliness and desperation. That is the true cause of all these problems. Until you can be happy with yourself, you will never learn to give anything of any substantial warrant to a Woman. To become whole as who you are. To not be afraid to be alone. We are all Alone and will forever be alone. Something that one should reconcile with yourself. If you can find a Woman who will stand next to you as Partners loyally to the end. THEN you will have something worth fighting for.
I personally will wait my entire life for this if I have too. Better that then to fill the void of emptiness within ones self with those who are unloyal and unfaithful to a point. I would hate to be Woman, Desire an emotional connection with someone, only to look around and see selfish and insecure boys wanting to have sex with me. Loads of them everywhere. It must be quite a daunting task being a Woman.
Instead they want a Man. A man is one who is secure with ones self. Not afraid to be alone. Does not pursue Selfish desires relentlessly. Instead wishes to give of themselves to a Woman and HER needs and to the posterity that may emanate from her. To work and to live for the Family one has created and if necessary to die for it.
The point is this. You were given the chance to make this and failed. Why? Because you rushed and found yourself with one who you were not satisfied with. So what do you think the answer is? To rush yet again head long into the wind and make the same mistakes yet again? Or perhaps find truths that you stand upon and guard and work tirelessly to manifest. To bring about your perfect family. As an artist would take their time with a masterpiece.
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[email protected], <hibstjoseph@... wrote :
I'm married to a Christian woman, great person but brings the worst out in especially after she found out I defected from Christianity to... well she doesn't know I'm a satanist now but she's caught me looking up demons and such. She keeps trying to drag me back in to the faith and we have a daughter together whom is the only reason at this point I'm still together with her and it's not just the difference in faith. But it is now. So my question is where in Hell can I meet a woman that's a satanist? I mean I'm all down and understanding about why our secrecy is so important butttt where can a man meet a girl in our way of life
