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Achatina Prisma said:I've reflected on the conflict earlier, and concluded the following.
People have often been wrong about all manner of things, and gradually learned from their mistakes and discovered the Truth. I believe that to be a testament to the intelligence, adaptability and creativity of humanity. Therefore, to question what others say is sane, and disagreements are simply a part of the learning process for everyone. However, that is not a valid reason to "attack" others.
To look down on others for being at a different stage of a learning process is naive, as it only distracts oneself from the things one still needs to learn, and results in pointless social friction. In severe cases, it may be more efficient to walk one's own path; but most of the time, it's far more beneficial to focus not on what one knows better than others, but on what one can learn from another.
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Regarding the topic of this thread, different people will give different advice depending on their priority (romance/loyalty vs children). It's a situation where it's necessary to compromise on one matter or the other, and this can lead to potentially heated disagreements.
There are many different kinds of relationships, so as some others have stated, the OP should really discuss this with her partner. What really matters is what's important to her and her partner both. The priorities of other people here are irrelevant.
Personally, I think this is well said and I agree with you here.