Ol argedco luciftias
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tabby said:Jrvan did what you claim to do yourself - making one aware (in this case, you) of their behavior towards someone else. You don’t seem to like it nor take it very well when people do that to you, but you feel perfectly justified doing it to others and condemn those who try to set you straight, but insist people listen to you when you “expose” them.
I did not mind this and I didn't have any problem with it. What I don't like is how both of you blame all conflict on me, when I was not the person to start it. I guess the important point is to decide where is the point when a discussion ends up being a conflict? I think both of you think that your first comments to me are a discussion, and that it is my replies that are the first conflict. I think that my replies are also just part of a discussion. Then your answer to me is about how I am a bad guy and I am turning everything into an argument when I'm really not.
I do not mind discussing things like this, and I do not mind disagreeing. But I think there should be consistency in what is a discussion and what is an argument, when there does not appear to be much difference in the messages. If it is an argument, y'all argued first. If it is a discussion, all of us are just discussing and there is no problem. But I don't believe that I started any conflict with either of you on this topic so I just don't see how it is fair to be blaming it on me when I didn't start it.
I feel a lot better about this comment than some of my past comments. I think I am explaining clearly and nicely how I was really thinking and feeling about this. I am sorry for reacting emotionally earlier, it is not something that I wanted to do. But there have been many problems in the lives of people I care about recently so all of my patience went to zero in the past few weeks.