For Those Who Are Too Hard On Themselves

[Moonchild Daydream]

hello everyone

i was reading some messages in the topic : Disciplining Yourself - Mind To Body
i was about to reply to a couple of them but then i decided to open a separate topic for this because
i think someone might need to hear certain things, just as i would have needed them myself
sorry for any mistakes, english is not my native language

i'll share a recent experience of mine to take as a reference
in december i decided to take my bodybuilding journey more seriously
so since the beginning of january i started to train 6 times a week, with workouts of 2 to 4 hours a day, following a strict diet

i forced myself to train even when i felt broken, when i had very little sleep the night before and other similar circumstances
i had hundreds of conversations in my head, basically me telling myself not to give up and to keep going, and that by doing so i would make it through, that with each step i was closer to achieving my goal, etc
but meanwhile, my mental health and other things were getting worse
i was so obsessed and focused i forgot i was human, and that nature has its limits and conditions

after a couple of months i started to feel weak and tired all the time, fucked up in the mind, and i couldn't progress
i did my research and realized i overtrained, built up too much stress and fucked up my nervous system
so i rested a bit, did a deload week and tried listening to my body
after a few weeks of recovery i was even stronger, i started enjoying working out again and i had much more mental clarity in general

the point is
like many, i'm very hard on myself, and i expect a lot
i often feel i'm not doing enough compared to my abilities, even when i achieve the "impossible", and i constantly question myself
on the one hand this way of thinking is positive because we always have that internal drive that leads us to improve but

don't let it turn into a toxic relationship between mind and body, always seek a balance
don't go too slow or too fast, unless there is an urgency to do so
just follow a suitable pace that allows you to continue wisely and without getting lost
this will bring you more benefits in the long run, and will prevent you from having to stop or hurt yourself in any context

and remember this
it's okay to feel tired once in a while, it means we are working hard
it's okay to make some mistakes when walking your path, when we evolve it's possible to stumble, some things take time, just keep going

a quote that had a strong impact on me : “if you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit”

also, celebrate your achievements, this is important
sometimes when we are too focused and moving fast, we forget our worth, the value of the goals achieved, our efforts
and we end up feeling like we're not doing enough
don't deprive yourself of this, celebrate your success, intelligently of course
this serves our brain as a "reward", it sends a signal of recognition, builds confidence and helps to stay motivated

i hope these words can help someone

please, don't ever give up and don't do anything stupid, everything will be fine at the end and eventually things will get better

 

[Fiery Pluto]

Good post. Morover, also one must not become stuck in the routine because in the process of moving forward and for the demands of life the routine will have to be adapted and modified. The routine must not become an infallible entity.

Connection with inner divinity and the gods is necessary to understand what is best to be done. One has to know himself.

 

[Fiery Pluto]

Satan's psalm is very effective in destroying one's illusions in order to be guided.