Detaching parent?

[DarkAries]

Greetings!

Im not sure what to do.

My father is gone long time ago, despite his body is alive. He broke, and just a very toxic shade of himself, who cant let go anything. Collecting the past, and, whats worse, collecting junks, which attracts rodents. Last time one got into the house(about half meter to my head when I woke up) I got panic attack, and tought I would die. Did he cared? Nope, he just continued smoking and evading everything. My mother also have enough from him. When the roof broke in a storm and mother and brother got panic what he did? Fucking nothing. When there was a robbery one house away and mother begged him to stay home, because she was scared what did he do? Fucking nothing. When I nearly died at the hospital, and mother almost got a heart attack from the fear of loosing his son what he did? I think you can guess my point.

I want him to leave. To collect all his junk and waste and just live his pathetic life somewhere far from us. I know, I can be bitter and hateful sometimes, but him! Resentful, pathetic, weak, horribly weak. It disgust me to my core that he is my 'father'.

But, on the other hand, he wasnt always like this. I remember, when I was young and he was still full of life. Its been almost a decade since he lost his job, and he have a new with better payment, but he hateful since that. We tried everything, but as I learned, you cant fix someone who dont want to be fixed.

Any idea what could work? Should I try to heal him, even though he refuse any help and almost enjoys being resentful to the world?

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

Greetings!

Im not sure what to do.

My father is gone long time ago, despite his body is alive. He broke, and just a very toxic shade of himself, who cant let go anything. Collecting the past, and, whats worse, collecting junks, which attracts rodents. Last time one got into the house(about half meter to my head when I woke up) I got panic attack, and tought I would die. Did he cared? Nope, he just continued smoking and evading everything. My mother also have enough from him. When the roof broke in a storm and mother and brother got panic what he did? Fucking nothing. When there was a robbery one house away and mother begged him to stay home, because she was scared what did he do? Fucking nothing. When I nearly died at the hospital, and mother almost got a heart attack from the fear of loosing his son what he did? I think you can guess my point.

I want him to leave. To collect all his junk and waste and just live his pathetic life somewhere far from us. I know, I can be bitter and hateful sometimes, but him! Resentful, pathetic, weak, horribly weak. It disgust me to my core that he is my 'father'.

But, on the other hand, he wasnt always like this. I remember, when I was young and he was still full of life. Its been almost a decade since he lost his job, and he have a new with better payment, but he hateful since that. We tried everything, but as I learned, you cant fix someone who dont want to be fixed.

Any idea what could work? Should I try to heal him, even though he refuse any help and almost enjoys being resentful to the world?

You are not required to heal him or endure his abuse. Act as is necessary. You have no obligation to anyone; people are responsible for their own downfall. Choose the ToZ method best suited to your needs.