Relationships #76930 Why does sexual past matter?

[AskSatanOperator]

I was dating this guy for several months, getting to know him, I realized more and more that he was really everything I ever looked for and wanted in a man.
He treated me like I always dreamed, he understood me perfectly, no one had ever succeeded in doing that.
It's like he checked off the whole list of characteristics I would want in a husband and father of my children.
Then one day, we talked about our past, and the fact that I'm not a virgin, and I had sex with several guys before him, from that day on he started to be more and more distant, until we broke up completely
he made me understand that as much as he fell in love with me, he couldn't get over it, and this thing was destroying him inside, so rather than pretend with me and himself, it was better to break up
I know for sure that he is a good guy, a gentleman, and he is very different from the boys of my generation, this will not make me change my mind about him, he is a truly special person.
but i wonder, having seen it in others, is it possible that someone's sexual past is so hard to accept when you want to start a serious relationship? he was not a superficial guy at all, and yet this was enough to make him distance himself from me, why does this happen? in an ideal world, a couple that is destined to love each other and stay together forever, should both be virgins?

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

I was dating this guy for several months, getting to know him, I realized more and more that he was really everything I ever looked for and wanted in a man.
He treated me like I always dreamed, he understood me perfectly, no one had ever succeeded in doing that.
It's like he checked off the whole list of characteristics I would want in a husband and father of my children.
Then one day, we talked about our past, and the fact that I'm not a virgin, and I had sex with several guys before him, from that day on he started to be more and more distant, until we broke up completely
he made me understand that as much as he fell in love with me, he couldn't get over it, and this thing was destroying him inside, so rather than pretend with me and himself, it was better to break up
I know for sure that he is a good guy, a gentleman, and he is very different from the boys of my generation, this will not make me change my mind about him, he is a truly special person.
but i wonder, having seen it in others, is it possible that someone's sexual past is so hard to accept when you want to start a serious relationship? he was not a superficial guy at all, and yet this was enough to make him distance himself from me, why does this happen? in an ideal world, a couple that is destined to love each other and stay together forever, should both be virgins?

The problem is that people are used to counting and numbering as if sex were a dirty thing and had to be quantified to assess the integrity of a person's morals and worth. This is wrong of course, but it is society's view of sex. If you are wondering why there should be such a wrong thing as to drive two people apart for no good reason, there is no why. Unfair things happen in life, and people are victims of ignorant mentalities. It happens, it is useless to try to find a meaning. There is no meaning, it simply can happen. Make your boyfriend understand what your love is worth, and that your love is worth according to its quality, honesty and spontaneity and not according to the internal structure of your vagina or the bed memories in your head.

 

[WrathOfVishnu]

It is a fact that the more sexual partners a man or woman has the less likely they are to stay in a marriage, and the higher likelihood of divorce. Sex is one thing marriage is another and men and women are selective with whom they are going to marry. Some men see that a woman has had multiple sexual partners and immediately assume that it won't work out because of this. This can either be due to insecurity of not living up to the standards of their previous partners or can simply be due to being selective about their future wife.

 

[HPS Lydia]

Most people have unhealthy attitudes regarding sex. And most people believe lies. This is what happens in a society with no true spirituality and closed, blocked, dirty chakras, and no connection to our Gods.

We have to suffer for other people's stupidity.

Even here in these forums there are people who get triggered and push their opinion like it's fact. The OP wrote "several", and one reply is saying it's 20. In accordance to how HPS Maxine used to mod, she even wrote a post saying this ANGERS THE GODS when members start pushing anti-sex dogma, I deleted a reply above. If you don't like it, mind your own life and your own business. Piss off the Gods in your own time, not here.

Life Ethics - Sexual Ethics I