Honestly, you have to be something of a politician to truly get along with them, lol.
You have to learn how to speak their language, however it has to also be authentic to your personal style, because trying to "fit in" will only cause depressive thought's and self-hatred.
I think we're similar, in that we're probably both the "brooding introvert" type obsessed with self-development and acquiring skills/knowledge.
You can treat this type of socialising as a new skill to learn and a game in and of itself, rather than an ugly chore.
You have to make at least a tiny bit of effort to connect with them, but never appear desperate to do so.
I'll watch their stupid show's or whatever on 2-4x speed to save time just to "stay in the loop".
But I don't care at all if they find me interesting, so my happiness is not tied to this outcome, but only whether or not I can learn something new from observing them or myself.
Andrapod's are so retarded it's actually fascinating to hear their stories sometime's.
I used to have the same problem as you but recently my experience has become the complete opposite, simply because I am now indifferent to their opinion's, as long as I'm able to freely act according to my authentic self... I'll throw in a bit of charm/diplomacy in there, but that's it.
Before I used to try and "fit in", but this only destroy's your confidence and causes depressive thought's and/or self-hatred. And this loop feed's into itself to cause further social isolation from the masses.
Now, I am just "me" and you can get f***ed if you don't like it - and they seem to be attracted to this attitude anyway, even if you have NOTHING in common.
They respect you, and this respect filter's their perception of you, and therefore make's them agreeable and open to your more "niche" interests. You can actually see the curiosity in their eyes. But if you come in from a weak angle, they don't want to know shit about you at all. Even if you're super handsome, lol.
I dress in the same way OP describes, because I think the masses dress like modern-day peasants which I cannot tolerate at all, even if I look totally out of place. And ppl are just automatically interested anyway, because you're a pleasure to their senses and emit an aura of authenticity and mystique. I just act exactly as I wish, regardless. Only being careful not to make totally catastrophic social blunders.
If you're relaxed, approachable, and carry yourself with a certain "royal bearing" as well as having charm and speaking ability, they'll usually consider you a breath of fresh air compared to the retards they're used to... And also, they'll give you a "pass" on basically anything lol, but I think that's also to do with physical attractiveness and style.
It really is just about being aware of perception, and how to mould it.
They're still usually boring and retarded, but with this skill socializing with normies become's a confidence booster rather than a cause for depressive thought's.
I think if you can find a way to *genuinely* be interested in them, it's easier. I kind of find it fascinating to observe andrapod behaviour sort of like a zoologist or anthrapologist, lol.
I will sometimes connect with their chakras to build that empathy/connection which wouldn't naturally occur otherwise.
But maybe it's also because of the places I frequent. I'm usually at a "workshop" or some other event which I have an actual interest in, so the mutual activity itself serves as an ice breaker. And I am quite knowledgeable on the topic, such as book clubs and philosophy.
I don't try to approach them at all, but I'll chime in every now and then to add something intelligent to the discussion, of which my detachment seem's to only further intrigue.
And so they'll ask me question's on their own. At that point, I could tell them I was a circus juggler and they'd probably still want to get to know more.
I think it's more so about the location's you're going to and how you present yourself. The girl's/guy's at a chess club are very different to the one's at the "night" club, lol.
And everything else is presentation and authenticity. Andrapod are shallow, it doesn't take much to interest them if you know how to do these thing's properly.
I think learning oratory/speaking ability will help you a lot, and just cultivating a feeling of relaxation and not giving a f**k.
You might find it helpful to have a celebrity or something which is SIMILAR enough to you, to which you can adopt some of their success by moulding aspect's of yourself.
I'm a strong blend of Venusian and Plutonian, masculine and feminine, and for me Alain Delon perfectly captured my natural style but he had a greater refinement of it which I learnt from: