This person excludes me. I'm tired

[Tethys333]

Hello everyone!
What I am about to tell you is very sad but also arouses a lot of anger.
Since the first year this classmate and I have always been close friends, we couldn't make friends and so we always stayed together supporting each other, laughing, joking.
This year she got it into her head that this should change and started making friends with some of my other classmates (so far there is nothing wrong with that). The problem is that she started ignoring me, giving me little importance and excluding me.
Whenever I try to tell her that I miss our times together she displays the message and doesn't respond.
When I asked her if we wanted to be deskmates again she said no, when I asked her if we wanted to be in the same room during the trip she said "but look we don't have to be in the same room."
Honestly, since it's a 4-year friendship, hearing those answers made me feel terrible, I cried for many days.
Today I have a party, in which she will also be there. I don't know how to behave and I honestly hate the fact that she has to ruin my mood and also take away my desire to go celebrate.
I am sad but mostly angry, I would like this situation to end, but there is no dialogue since she has no intention of having it.
Seriously, I am very tired

 

[nema]

Well let me introduce you to your first Power Move my dear.. you gain the strenght to Just say "Bye" to her if she doesn't care you win because you will feel proud, if she come back you win. You will feel better about yourself and possibly remove a negative relationship. Trust me you'll learn to live without her..

 

[Aquarius]

Goyim being goyim, what you can do is understand how unimportant that person is and live your life without her influence in your head.

 

[Jihiji12]

Hello everyone!
What I am about to tell you is very sad but also arouses a lot of anger.
Since the first year this classmate and I have always been close friends, we couldn't make friends and so we always stayed together supporting each other, laughing, joking.
This year she got it into her head that this should change and started making friends with some of my other classmates (so far there is nothing wrong with that). The problem is that she started ignoring me, giving me little importance and excluding me.
Whenever I try to tell her that I miss our times together she displays the message and doesn't respond.
When I asked her if we wanted to be deskmates again she said no, when I asked her if we wanted to be in the same room during the trip she said "but look we don't have to be in the same room."
Honestly, since it's a 4-year friendship, hearing those answers made me feel terrible, I cried for many days.
Today I have a party, in which she will also be there. I don't know how to behave and I honestly hate the fact that she has to ruin my mood and also take away my desire to go celebrate.
I am sad but mostly angry, I would like this situation to end, but there is no dialogue since she has no intention of having it.
Seriously, I am very tired

People come and go in life, it’s natural. Especially at a young age. The friends you start school with are not the friends you will end it with and you will gain and then lose touch with many others along the way.

It may hurt now but you will find friends who will last much longer and form a much stronger bond in time.

Move on to other people who appreciate you and forget about her as she’s forgotten about you

 

[Epiphany]

Hello everyone!
What I am about to tell you is very sad but also arouses a lot of anger.
Since the first year this classmate and I have always been close friends, we couldn't make friends and so we always stayed together supporting each other, laughing, joking.
This year she got it into her head that this should change and started making friends with some of my other classmates (so far there is nothing wrong with that). The problem is that she started ignoring me, giving me little importance and excluding me.
Whenever I try to tell her that I miss our times together she displays the message and doesn't respond.
When I asked her if we wanted to be deskmates again she said no, when I asked her if we wanted to be in the same room during the trip she said "but look we don't have to be in the same room."
Honestly, since it's a 4-year friendship, hearing those answers made me feel terrible, I cried for many days.
Today I have a party, in which she will also be there. I don't know how to behave and I honestly hate the fact that she has to ruin my mood and also take away my desire to go celebrate.
I am sad but mostly angry, I would like this situation to end, but there is no dialogue since she has no intention of having it.
Seriously, I am very tired

She was never your friend.

That may have been an acquaintance at best, but not a friend. A friend will welcome you in their life.

Forget about her, she's not friend material. Find someone who is.

 

[SeguaceDiSatanas]

I am sad but mostly angry, I would like this situation to end, but there is no dialogue since she has no intention of having it.

In addition to what you have already been told, here you go:

How to Detach Unwanted People/Entities from Your Aura

 

[Tethys333]

Thank you very much everyone!
I am tired of suffering because of you. It is time to change my life and my friends

 

[MercuryWisdom]

Hello everyone!
What I am about to tell you is very sad but also arouses a lot of anger.
Since the first year this classmate and I have always been close friends, we couldn't make friends and so we always stayed together supporting each other, laughing, joking.
This year she got it into her head that this should change and started making friends with some of my other classmates (so far there is nothing wrong with that). The problem is that she started ignoring me, giving me little importance and excluding me.
Whenever I try to tell her that I miss our times together she displays the message and doesn't respond.
When I asked her if we wanted to be deskmates again she said no, when I asked her if we wanted to be in the same room during the trip she said "but look we don't have to be in the same room."
Honestly, since it's a 4-year friendship, hearing those answers made me feel terrible, I cried for many days.
Today I have a party, in which she will also be there. I don't know how to behave and I honestly hate the fact that she has to ruin my mood and also take away my desire to go celebrate.
I am sad but mostly angry, I would like this situation to end, but there is no dialogue since she has no intention of having it.
Seriously, I am very tired

She doesn’t want to be your friend anymore. It doesn’t need dialogue. It’s not your problem, teenage friendships (guessing teenage because of context) are often like that.

The worst you can do is cling to her or show her you need her.

Make your own friends, forget about her, make friendships with those that actually support you and love you.

Sometimes, it’s very healthy to have an ego (probably called self-esteem) that when someone doesn’t want you, you don’t beg them to stay, you just don’t need them, show them they are replaceable, or just focus on your self and study/work/advancement.

Don’t contact her anymore and when she reaches out to you to ask for a service or she remembers she needs you be cruel and ignore her.

If someone doesn’t deserve your friendship, cut them off and only those who earn it can have it.

Focus on your growth, studies, beauty, self-care, work, future, be fun, and carefree and people will reach out to you and want to be your friend badly.

This is a process so take it step-by-step and work on it, be patient and love yourself.

Self-esteem is everything, be magnetic.

 

[Epiphany]

Also, something else came to mind. I wonder if somebody could be trashing you behind your back. Maybe it's her, or maybe it's her new "friends". Would explain the weird 180 in behavior and not seeming to want to be associated with you.

Either way, you must move forward and find better people. It hurts but you deserve better.

 

[Tethys333]

I presume you must be rather young, Tethys333 correct? Aquarius has given you the best advice one can give - one has to learn to become less sentimental and more pragmatic. Yet this comes with time and maturity.

I had an acquaintance (had been friends for several years) who deemed me his friend, but it so happaned that he moved to another city, me after some time also moved to a different one. One may think 'there are text messages, video chats, you name it'.

Knowing, however, that he has always preached pragmatism and futility of maintaining any kind of relationships, the last time I sent him a text message was in May or June 2018. I've not received any message from him ever since.

Was it somewhat sad? Yes. Has it taught me anything? Definitely - if someone no longer wants to be a part of our life, don't let yourself FEED THEIR EGO.

Unfortunately, the reason why I suffer a lot is that before besides her I had no one, slowly I am trying to spend more time with my classmates to get to know them even more.
Unfortunately, this difficulty I have in making friends is due to the position of my Saturn on my birth chart. But I am trying to live with it.
Thanks again for the advice, I was right to write to you guys