I will keep all the private things, private.
However, there is some experiences I can share.
I asked for an Incubus my first year as a spiritual Satanist. I did the ritual as outlined. That same year, I kept getting the nudge to move out of my current home. I didn't though.
I live with my father. It's a small apartment, and there's not a lot of privacy. I was told by my Guardian that when I *do* move out and get my own place (which will be sometime this year, I've been working on this) my Incubus will come to me nightly.
Now I know it's not the same for everyone, but I think this is because the energies raised during intimate relations would be noticed by my dad. My Incubus does not want this, he wants complete privacy.
Reading your original post, I think you need to know yourself better if you are monogamous or polygamous. There's no rush, it's not like there's an expiration date on the ritual to do to Satan to request a Succubus. Take your time.
There are other ways to be motivated, besides. But if you want this as a motivation, that's your call.
My Incubus came to me in my 6th year as an SS. It didn't fully register, and I didn't quite believe it, when it happened. He came to me, sat with me and guided me to books on Amazon. The first time I saw him was in a dream, in my 8th year as an SS. He was talking to me, and I could see his face and hair. I don't remember what he said but it comforted me and I woke up with a smile, and his energy all around me. It felt like a hug, but through words and energy
I think my experience with my Incubus would have come sooner had I moved out, so many years ago.
He's very friendly. He's protective, and looks out for me.
Hail Satan!