looking for things i can do to help me to stop being shy. i am introverted to the point that it is starting to effect my relationships in real life, and some days i struggle with coming out of my room. What can i do to help with this.
It often really is as simple as taking baby steps to slowly crawl out of your turtle shell.
Often shyness, besides other psychological causes behind it, is simply because the person has very little experience talking with others in general, and they fear the unknown regarding this, the mind is plagued by assumptions as to how other people would see you or react or judge you for the countless things you believe are greatly flawed in yourself, while in reality most people literally couldn't care less.
As it is difficult to just go and talk to people, start first with putting yourself into situations where you have to do something outside, and realize it is okay to be outside, not as bad or scary as you think it is.
For example, try not to rely on others to buy the things you need if you do so, and take care to get your own stuff that you need.
If you are too uncomfortable doing something alone, and you have people around who can help you with this, such as your parents, then try to converse with them about this even if you are afraid of how it will make you look. If going out to buy stuff alone is too hard, then go with your parents to buy something, observe how they do this and that it is okay to do this.
The reality is that people don't care if you're a grown man who goes shopping with your mother, rather than any assumptions, they'd just think it's an outing with a parent and a son.
The whole idea would be, to experience the outside and the things that you are afraid of, in order to see that they aren't anything to be afraid of.
Make the barrier as low as it can possibly be and slowly build your experiences until you can do simple things like going to the store alone and exchange a few words with the store clerk, exchange a glance of eye contact for a moment, get used to human interaction little by little.
It is okay to be a withdrawn person, so long as it doesn't cripple you, so you don't need to become an outgoing person who can speak to anyone, you just need to overcome any crippling fears or hangups you have that prevent you from functioning at a functional human level.
However, you have to start somewhere, and since doing that alone might be impossibly difficult, you should try to see if there is anyone in your life who can help you take the first few steps, like your parents, or maybe a sibling, or a friend that you can trust.
If this is not available, then you need start doing things yourself one way or another. If that thought scares you, then start by getting used to that idea.
Think about this for a while until the thought no longer scares you, slowly make yourself comfortable with the idea that you need to start doing something to reverse this situation.
It could be as simple as programming your mind that it is okay to be outside and do what you need to do, just tell yourself this 10 times and get up to go out your room, go outside and do anything, even if it is just a small meaningless walk around your house.
What you need is to experience the outside and realize these things are not as difficult or scary as you have made yourself believe they are.
I hope you can get sone ideas from my reply here.
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