jrvan said:
To you, it apparently seems evil to abandon family no matter the circumstances. However, to me, it's evil towards the self to be excessively self sacrificing, and foolish to try to protect family members from themselves when they perpetually recreate their own problems. Sometimes people don't want to get better, and you need to let them drown in order to save yourself.
The OP has stated they have done bindings, and made every magick effort to protect their mother. Yet the mother keeps the man around despite there being a binding, and apparently also plays games with him which is feeding into it. This is self destructive on the mother's part, and self destructive on the OP's part for exhausting their energies like this. They need to take care of themself, and let their mother take care of herself. They have already done all that they can. Their energies would be better spent helping their own life.
I never said anything about it always being evil to abandon family no matter what circumstances.
We were told about an abusive relationship, where the woman is frequently crying and is frequently afraid to come home. She is afraid to go home just to be abused more when she gets there. And for some reason you keep blaming all of this on her and saying she is doing it to herself. I don't understand that, and I see nothing in the original post that would say that.
There are many reasons why an abused wife might feel trapped and unable to leave. If he has physically abused her before, she might think if she tried to leave he might be mad enough to hurt her much worse or even kill her. This is a real thing that happens to women every day. Or it could be she has very little money, or even does not have any money in an account seperate from him. And it is very difficult to survive by leaving every thing that you own and having not much more than the clothes you are wearing and no money, and have to go somewhere and try to live. Very often there is nowhere for these women to go other than homeless shelters which also are very often very dangerous places and are not much different environment from a prison. Then what if he finds her and follows her, and hurts her? Then probably the largest reason for most women is if there are children, she does not want to abandon them and leave them alone with him for the children to be abused. Especially if her leaving would only make him much more angry and abuse the children much worse.
I don't know if you never knew anybody in a situation like this, or if you never heard about anybody in a situation like this. But this is happening every day to millions of women around the world, and these are just some of the most often reasons why they can't leave or believe that they can't leave, every specific situation also has other reasons. And women every single day are experiencing these things.
I don't know how bad the situation is for this specific family, and of course maybe it is not so bad and maybe he would not kill her for leaving. But the situation obviously is bad enough that the child is desperately trying to find help for it. So I don't believe that everything is perfectly harmless and safe either. What I see is one or possibly more than one people who are in some amount of danger, and are trying to get any amount of help that they can. We don't know what the danger is, maybe it is life or death, maybe it is getting physically hit but not life threatening, or maybe it is something smaller. But there is some amount of danger that people are trying to get away from.
And you on your own assume that the danger is zero and everything is safe and harmless. How can you assume that? That was not said anywhere.
So I think it is very important to try to give some help with this if we are able to. Or give some instructions how the gods can be contacted and asked for help. And the gods are able to see exactly what the situation is, and they will be able to help in the correct way.
You assume police have never been called, we don't know if they ever were. But even when police are called, there often is nothing that they are actually able to do. Maybe the man gets in a small amount of trouble for a couple weeks or couple months, or maybe nothing at all happens. But police are not able to do anything unless they personally see something happen, or if they have very clear evidence that it happened. Many kinds of abuse do not show such clear evidence, or if there is physical damage it often is on both people as the victim fights back with some defence. And the police say you both fought so if one of you is getting in trouble, you both are. Often the only thing police do is write the story on a paper then put it in a filing cabinet, and do nothing else. Or also could be times when calling police is seen as an escalation that makes him even madder, and after the police leave he hurts her even worse. All of these things happen.
But for you to just say fuck her, all of it is all her own fault, she did it all to herself and she will continue doing it to herself over and over for the rest of her life. I think this response is absolutely disgusting and evil. I hope that it is not evil, and there is a strong possibility it is just ignorant. Maybe you don't know anybody who experienced a situation like this, and you don't know how much fear is involved or how complicated the situation actually is that it is difficult to get away from. You and everybody you have ever known might just be very lucky to not experience anything this bad. But I believe that it is a good thing to do a small amount of work to help possibly save a woman's life, and I believe it is a bad thing to blame the victim and turn away from her at the time when she most needs help. What if the gods had your attitude about apathy and victim blaming? They would see how badly our people have been harmed, and would say we did it to ourselves for being too weak to fight against it, and would all abandon us and leave us to rot. Luckily that is exactly the opposite of how the gods react.
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