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i love him, but i don’t love him sexually. help?
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Why would you waste time on something that doesn't give you pleasure?
Of course, there's the question of basic affection, maybe that and other things like stability and gifts are valuable enough to overcome a "good orgasm"?
To get rid of pornography you must cleanse and meditate on your heart chakra, heal and cleanse your sacral chakra and program the energy to eliminate needy ties to pornography.
Runes like Gebo can make you feel satisfied with sex, and at the same time can heal your addiction and attachment.
Wunjo can also be useful.
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Porn is very unhealthy and could be one of the reasons for this problem.
Do you think it would be orgasmic to have sex with anyone else? Do you think sex can be orgasmic to you?
Can you read your natal chart? Do you have karma that could be cause this? Have you race mixed in the past? Have you had sex with low level beings in the past? Do you have porn addiction?
Taking these in account, you can decide if a freeing working targeting malicious sexual karma would worth it (if you think you are ready for a freeing working).
In any way, what you can do is to stop watching porn, and make sure to put more attention to chakras like the base, sacral!, hearth, and throat.
Do you think it would be orgasmic to have sex with anyone else? Do you think sex can be orgasmic to you?
Can you read your natal chart? Do you have karma that could be cause this? Have you race mixed in the past? Have you had sex with low level beings in the past? Do you have porn addiction?
Taking these in account, you can decide if a freeing working targeting malicious sexual karma would worth it (if you think you are ready for a freeing working).
In any way, what you can do is to stop watching porn, and make sure to put more attention to chakras like the base, sacral!, hearth, and throat.
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Pornography is a mental poison and a tool designed to destroy us, so you have to seriously evaluate it and stop with pornography.
For the rest, be honest with him and talk to him about it. Understand what the problem is and solve it.
For the rest, be honest with him and talk to him about it. Understand what the problem is and solve it.
You and the guy have damage and a dirty sacred chakra
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It sounds like he isn't turning you on. Try to recreate what you are viewing from porn hub with him. If you want him to act a certain way, then tell him what you want to do and explain that it turns you on a lot.
Regarding magickal solutions, runes like Kenaz are good for creating sexual connections. If this is just a matter of him being away and you not being able to visualize him having sex with you, then focus more on his energy directly. Draw his energy into your sacral chakra and this should turn you on naturally, plus feel better than porn. Program any orgasms to further build this sexual connection with him.
Regarding loyalty, it is normal not to have 100% perfect synastry or connections, but sex is also a big deal of creating and amplifying energetic transfers between couples, so I wouldn't get complacent about this.
I believe your asking "I don't reach orgasm from my boyfriend having sexual intercourse with him".
Since you stated this I'll assume in my view of your post. That A) You've had orgasms at one point or another but it often fails and B) Some women from time to time have sex and when their boyfriend cums, she doesn't, he feels bad, and the lady will say "It's okay I just wanted to feel a dick inside me".
Since these two potential scenarios exist and you use porn to get off. I'm not against porn and I think it's silly to relegate huge facets of your time to magick from porn. Maybe I'm the outlier compared to others in that I often everyday look at porn for a little bit and have no dopamine issues. I assume your dopaminically addicted to porn.
But this might be a hunch but I think you aren't porn addicted there's potential you are.
I think you might have an issue from overtraining your orgams to cum from Syntribating.
https://www.syntribate.com/
Syntribation Syn = Come together, Tri = As in tribadism when a women rubs her vulva against another vulva or a body part or pillows or some other object/s in other words it's a form of female frotting.
Frotting = men put their cocks together and jerk/rub against each other or put their cock on an object like a bed or pillow or materiel that feels good and rub it
Frotting = women equals the same thing only with your vulva/vagina
In Spanish the term is Frotandose.
I believe you are Syntribating i.e. cross-legged masturbating and probably doing it since either a baby or when you saw women doing it and imitated it and then cummed.
Some women are so ignorant on sexuality that when they masturbate or have sex for their first time they cannot believe that syntribating i.e. cross-legged masturbation = orgasm inducing.
Most women agree syntribating = feeling better than sex, masturbating, or oral.
There are women that are on various stream sites like Stripchat and others that use toys like the lush or domi toys and are streaming for hours as their job. And charge up their pussies like crazy and reach points of squirting, creaming, and general increased vaginal sensitivity. So some women have retrained their ability to orgasm from vaginal intercourse or return to cumming from vaginal.
Squirt = mild amount of urine with mostly clear liquid with PSA(Prostatic properties) i.e. comes out of the skene's glands near the clitoris.
Cream = milky substance like men's cum without spermatozoid i.e. grool a.k.a. girlcum
Both substances can be trained released and increased through usage cream usually comes out of the vaginal canal but some women have gotten to the point of combining both fluids and cream-squirt detonating together and releasing an almost bukakke load of cum like a guy from a women's perspective.
In fact I have a theory that women need to squirt/cream to enjoy orgasms and sex more i.e. be like a guy just as my theory is men should edge and charge up and stack orgasm after orgasm to cum like a women i.e. non-stop, multiple even reaching multiple full body.
Of course men have prostate glands and can perform syntribateless syntribation. They can have chairgasms and prostate orgasms of different types sitting down though it requires extreme retraining of the prostate gland using various anal prostate toys.
So men need to be like women and women need to do like men. It's been stated women who engage in squirt-cream etc.etc. get even more engrossed by sex and are more ravenous. I wouldn't even be surprised if they feel much more satisfied and much more enjoying of such things such as performing tantric activities. Hell even Italian Tantra is another one.
Italian Tantra = you have sex just to the point under the point of no return 80-90% of the way your man unsheathes his sword and you go to sleep do it for a few days charge up multiple times and then at one point go full on to charge up the organs.
In my personal opinion I think it's not just the porn which is like meh.
Porn = eugenic examination of sexuality so you find the right people to like. For example as a fantasy as much as you respect your man and do so and should very good if you do. I'm sure you've had thoughts of I like this type of cock or these cocks are the ones I like or for example the naked women that are like this I like.
Basically porn = finding your sexuality, fetishes, and kinks.
Can you use porn for maturbation/dopamine minded antics sure.
But in reality pornography isn't sex it's fake 70% of it is faked. Why do you think amateur sites have gotten so popular not just amateur men and women but even solo camsites etc.etc.
People are tired of the fake, theatrics and whatnot. While some pornstars definitely enjoy it the fact of the matter is most women are just going through the motions and faking it.
In fact there's a lot of feminists that are against the established order that state porn = degrading to men. Why because it treats the guy as some cheap toy to pump and cum and that is it.
It's a specific reason why many women have gone into amateur, camsites, or like many women but not all enjoy gay pornography. A common complaint women posses is porn is so aggressive and hardcore destroy, destroy that while some women fantasize about gangbangs and other acts of multiple penetration and aggressive sex. These are fantasies and even if wanting to be more rough/aggressive gentle. Women enjoy gay pornography for the gentleness and love as well as affection even if both are strangers probably one of the reasons many feminists against the established order film porn or some of these producers in a more romantic way.
Think of it kinda like the MG34 machine gun it sounds aggressive and loud jackhammer fire. While the Mg42 fired in short-controlled burst or a long rip despite a 300 rpm minimum increase in firing rate always feels gentle.
In simplest terms do you want to get fucked by an circumcized cock jackhammering you and sheathing the saber in a rough manner. Or a uncircumsized cock that is gentle. Hell many women are complaining there aren't enough realistic uncircumcized dildos, many women now a days complain they want a foreskin on their dildo for greater realism and feelings.
In fact it's the same reason why I believe birth control needs improvements and we need the Gods around. Cumming inside a women and depositing cum in them is important. In fact many women enjoy it equally like the guy going bareback plus feeling their foreskin. Yes they can feel foreskin, cum, and the difference in tempo and rhythym the sexually uncircumsized partner performs. I strongly believe women need to however minute in various macro and micro nutrients, cum. Oral, anal, or vaginal I strongly believe women need mens cum for their physical vessel it's not simply impregnation but the very physical-spiritual and yes mental properties of cumming or should I say a guy ejaculating inside a women.
My best guess is at the end of my shotgun blast of wording. Is your a syntribater and while nothing wrong with it in fact your boyfriend will get fucking turned on as hell knowing your cumming your brains out all over the places your going out to.
Why do you think women look odd or perform odd maneuvers or perform sighs and gestures in public.
Your boyfriend will deeply enjoy the fact your syntribating.
Men can syntribate as well some even do it directly on the penis and some even get dry orgasms from it. Some men have stated it feels better in some cases but not akin to women. Although that is a habitual factor i.e. pressing and manipulating the clitoral organ. It's akin to some women who get clit piercings if they can and posses a larger clit. The ring stimulates them some women feel sexual sensations walking around and feeling the ring stimulate them some more sensitive ladies though rare even cum while walking around.
Sheer fact is many women don't know syntribating = rewiring of sex organs and causing issues with normal sexual procedure i.e. intercourse. Head or oral is odd some women love it, some hate, some state whatever you do I'll suck your cock off but never get near my pussy. My best guess is they feel insecure or are disgusted by their pussy. Women have various pussies ranging from dainty, ugly, and wabisabi. Fact of the matter is it's like women themselves, breasts, legs, and other factors of the lady. There are ugly women, wabisabi, and dainty or pretty. Fact of the matter is it's a fact of life not an insult. In fact it would behoove people and computers and whatnot not to classify this stuff.
In fact it's like the study that men help women more if they posses erect nipples while communcating with them because it seems more sexually arousing and they like it in a deeper manner so they help out more for biological supremacy.
Sex = a Scientific field and we've so destroyed sex from centuries and millenias of stupidity it's been distorted into communist shit. It's Science The Theory of Sex or the High Praise of the Theories and Theorums of sex. Sorta like the kamakazi sperm theory one sperm is chosen to impregnate the others bash into other sperm from other men and ensure the superior sperm impregnates and the penis theory that the head of the cock is used not just to keep and spread cream and wetness but also to scrap the cum of other men off the vaginal/cervix area to increase impregnation of a superior male or some other male who has superior sperm.
It's like I said above sites like Indexxx, Eurobabes and other hosting sites categorize men and women and you can find the types of women you like the breasts, pussies, asses, legs, etc.etc. races nationality etc.etc.
So in my personal opinion try and study the above website, communicate to your partner explain to them your having a lot of trouble orgasming and pretending to fake it.
In fact communciation = 666% important.
Tell him and be sure not to let him be down or depressed. In fact I think another factor is your not having enough foreplay or your going through the motions in a robotic almost autopilot mode.
Try and explore your body and tell him to explore you. For examples do you like having your flanks rubbed, do you like your stomach rubbed around what kind of foreplay do you want. How many times to you feel comfortable or how long foreplaying. Be specific and open.
For example in some camsites women even get erotic lacation and can release milk from their breasts or for example get nipplegasms. For example many breastfeeding mothers sour at the idea of their child making them orgasm from nipple suckling. But the reality is it's part of the human system it's how we operate. I strongly believe some people who orgasm a lot and make it a career they can passively lactate but lactation or erotic lactation as it's properly called requires breast pumping at least 20 minutes for both every two hours. And a good idea is to include your partner once per day for 40 minutes, 20 minutes per breast and suckle and play with your breast to produce milk.
BTW milk isn't innocent some women get issues and infections sadly. I wouldn't be surprised if some men and women love looking at certain breasts and nipples from women who posses holes in their nipples to express fertility and eroticism to it. Sorta like how some women nipples are completely enclosed by the nipple biological matter and like I said some have holes which excites the senses.
BTW nipplegasms in some men a few isolated examples can = orgams more powerful than prostatic and or even combined with penile.
Some men rewire their system for nipplegasms at an extreme way.
Of course like the reddit post whereby a guy used an aneros prostate massager and at first 3 minutes pleasurable feelings, 7th minute increased sensations, 10th minute in all hell breaks lose and the guy has non-stop multiple full body super orgams back to back without stopping. He spent 1 hour and 30 minutes cumming his brains out until he had a spiritual experience freaked out and pull it out. Took 10 almost 15 minutes to reintegrate as they got their brains fucked.
So to enlighten you:
Communication your not gonna hurt your boyfriend by telling him your not cumming or enjoying sex. IF anything it'll double up his efforts to make sex better for you. Perhaps a few orgasms from oral/manual stimulation. Also some women are more orgasmically charged and sexual from foreplay than from direct cumming. Some women have said foreplay = better than sex.
It's akin to some men that state masturbating or having sex or getting oral or doing anal feels better than the end result.
As the old penis meme a male orgasm is a crotchsneeze compared to women.
While some women cum hard as fuck. There are men retrained and rewired sometimes under the influence of cannbis or hallucinogenic substances if they are able to maintain cohesive activity without interrupting the sex and forgetting what to do. There's also other drugs people use such as ecstacy or other types with bodyloads for such things.
But some men do cum as hard or harder than women.
Really it's an act women naturally cum harder then men for the most part but some men can come equally or more. Especially those who rewired as hell and produced chairgasms or backgasms as one isolated case of a man having orgasms from lying on his back and spending upwards of 5 hours on his back cumming his brains out. Eventually he began masturbating to eliminate the rewiring but it was too late. Even sex with his wife he would have 10 orgasms back to back.
https://wiki.malegspot.com/index.php?title=Main_Page
and the isolate single case study a bad study as it's only one sample but a casepoint of potential orgasmic rewiring and human nature.
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/ca.23006
I forgot to mention are you vocalizing and going through the motions to please him? Some studies show women acting in a vocalizing/moaning/verbal manner getting loud to make the guy cum. In other words whether real orgasm or faking it for him. Women vocalizing and performing an act to make the guy cum. In other words female vocalizing is used to incite the man to cum his load and sorta like enticing him to go for it.
https://medium.com/sexography/the-surprising-science-behind-womens-sexual-vocalizations-d5779a88b808
https://psychcentral.com/blog/womens-sex-noises-and-orgasm-screams-voluntary-or-not#1
Also check out bing supercharged aI search = Why do women vocalize during sex to incite men to cum.
So TLDR You LOVE HIM, that is good. Love is nice.
Now you need to communcite and drop it on the table and communicate.
Again COMMUNICATION = 666%
Perhaps this might even help you open up as well. My best guess is aside from physical i.e. syntribation.
Communciation wise your relationship or ship of relation = lackluster communcation.
In fact the best course of action is study, learn, adapt, and communicate.
So are you pretending to orgasm not just because you want him to cum and feel good. Or is there a genuine issue i.e. syntribating, rewiring, lack of foreplay, lack of communications.
I believe all of the above tick the boxes on what your SHIP OF RELATION I.E. RELATION-SHIP SHOULD = i.e. COMMUNICATION
Just be open and honest and speak to him seriously don't be like half-assed watching TV shut all noises and communcate properly at a table or on the couch.
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You seem to know a lot. What do you think about foot fetish? I've noticed that it's spreading.
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It is unhealthy, and just because you don't reject is doesn't mean anything. Neither the rest of the word.
I did not had a good orgasm until I stopped watching porn.
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Your problem is the addiction to porn, porn is extremely mentally stimulating, sex won't come even close to the kind of stimulation you get from porn. If you want a healthy and happy sex life you must abstain from porn and deprogram yourself from it.
What is this advice? Is this Blitzkreig? Why the fuck aren't you discouraging porn like in every other instance? We all know it's jewish filth, and you're telling this woman to tell his boyfriend "babe, you don't make me cum, look here, this is how you make me cum". Since when do we look up to pornstars as models? I swear to the Gods that the morality of this board just comes and goes. Like that one instance where you guys told another promiscuous woman that it was okay to do OnlyFans because she is not jewish. Make up your mind, it's hard to know whether you're trolling or you are just having a weird day.
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It is really ironic to accuse me of trolling when you are jumping on my back over nothing. You literally deleted all the other context which clearly implies not to use porn.
Instead of going to her boyfriend, she is viewing porn to satiate her fetish, therefore I said try to recreate it with him. Is that really so hard to understand?
Don't accuse me of having a weird day whilst simultaneously trashing me and the "morality of the board". That sort of behavior is much more weird.
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If I were you I would buy a book on Kamasutra. And the Forbidden secrets of lovemaking. Secrets and sexual knowledge that has been used throughout the centuries. I know you're not going to find that in most book stores? But I know that a lot of that was practice back in the times of ancient Egypt and India. If you really want to fulfill your fantasies sexually? There are books that you can look up that will help stimulate your mind, mentally ,physically, emotionally and sexually. Breathing programs that you can practice and follow that will stimulate. Working with the pineal gland and your chakras. There is also a book called the sutras. And the practice of the sutras that you find in most yoga studios. And actual yoga exercises that will help stimulate. Working both the mind and the body. It helps me. And this is stuff that I have read that helped me. I know that these books are not easy to find? But I am sure that there are a lot of copies out there that you can purchase.
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There are a lot of good books out there based on the sacred knowledge of sexuality that was used among the gods and the goddesses, the ancient people. And still practiced to this very day. In some countries
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I find it difficult for a woman to truly love a man who doesn't satisfy her sexually; women are extremely erotic beings, much more than this society corrupted by Christian morality suggests.
Love is established in an environment of natural and mutual pleasure.
If he doesn't know how to turn you on, he probably has difficulty understanding your sexual being in general, and generally has little mental "chemistry" with you.
A man wants to satisfy his woman, and the woman needs to be observed and satisfied accordingly, from every point of view, especially sexual.
A woman wants to feel sexually loved.
Do you feel love for him? Couldn't it just be affection or sense of responsability?
Love is established in an environment of natural and mutual pleasure.
If he doesn't know how to turn you on, he probably has difficulty understanding your sexual being in general, and generally has little mental "chemistry" with you.
A man wants to satisfy his woman, and the woman needs to be observed and satisfied accordingly, from every point of view, especially sexual.
A woman wants to feel sexually loved.
Do you feel love for him? Couldn't it just be affection or sense of responsability?
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He meant to do what turns her on. Maybe she has a fetish she is watching which turns her on, in this case they should recreate this.
It's not weird to speak one's mind, though my choice of words was probably poor. I apologize for assuming prematurely and jumping on you, it was uncalled for, and I have no excuse. However, I am not sure how using porn as reference might help her quit it. If we're talking fetishes, porn warps that as well. I can speak from experience, porn had made me be turned on by some pretty disturbing stuff, things that after quitting feel very wrong. I don't think there is any value in using it at all. I'm sure she will find her fetishes by experimenting with her partner better than using porn to emulate what she thinks is a "fetish". The rest of what you had provided is a magickal working, I can't really say anything about it, if it works it works. But the first part really clashed to me. Your POV on this issue might be more flexible than mine. Again, sorry for attacking you.
Do you happen to know some titles apart from Kamasutra and The Sutras? Some references would be nice. I can find a lot of book using Z-library, but it's been closed everywhere outside of Tor.
100% it is basically sense of responsibility. Admirable, to say the least.
A fetish is fine, but as I said to Blitzkreig, porn distorts those things too. Why do you think there is a rise in things like "Cuckold", "Blacked", "Step-siblings" or whatever genre is the new hit nowadays? What if her "fetish" so happens to be race-mixing just because she watched interracial porn? Would that still be ok? A lot of these "preferences" are pushed by the filthy rabbis who control the industry. The line between a fetish and brainwashing through porn is so thin nowadays, that some deranged people call fucking dogs a fetish and would see nothing wrong with it. Rabbis are pushing for pedophilia. Does that mean it is a fetish? No, it's disturbing. How do I distinguish between a fetish and jewish corruption?
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I think you and your boyfriend need to stop watching pornography, it is possible that role-playing games are suitable for your couple to kindle sexual interest and improve orgasm, they can have a good therapeutic effect.
