help please

[darkfeminine]

How do i work towards self acceptance ? i know the right thing to do is that but my past mistakes and my flaws and things i hate about myself and everything just does not leave my mind and it completely outweighs everything and anything good feels non existent and i feel as if there’s no way out and honestly it makes me contemplate suicide. it makes me go deeper into depression. the amount of hatred it makes me have for myself and this feeling i have of feeling unworthy and alone is unbearable at times it’s just like i’d rather just run away and change everything about myself or just disappear . what can i do ?

 

[Satan's Crow]

Sometimes we can be very hard on ourselves, and I believe that is the wrong thing to do. It not only hurts you, but it dulls the mind and it affects the ability to think badly. Just accept yourself the way you are, because centiles are already beautiful.

I am trying to tell you not only that you are good today, but also that tomorrow you can be much better.

Now just, accept yourself, but realize that you can be so much more.

Our reality was much more beautiful than our dreams and our future will be much more beautiful than our dreams.

 

[Power of Justice [JG]]

How do i work towards self acceptance ? i know the right thing to do is that but my past mistakes and my flaws and things i hate about myself and everything just does not leave my mind and it completely outweighs everything and anything good feels non existent and i feel as if there’s no way out and honestly it makes me contemplate suicide. it makes me go deeper into depression. the amount of hatred it makes me have for myself and this feeling i have of feeling unworthy and alone is unbearable at times it’s just like i’d rather just run away and change everything about myself or just disappear . what can i do ?

The fact that you recognize your past actions as wrong is all the proof you need to see that you're not that person anymore. You can never change the past, kicking yourself over what you did or didn't do doesn't help. If you can't live with the weight of your actions then seek to make amends. Try to make it right, and if you physically cannot because a person you wronged is now dead for example, then do something for their relatives; be creative.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to change everything about yourself, we are supposed to wage war on our weaknesses to overcome them. Just know that this takes many years, you probably won't see the fruits of your labor immediately.

 

[Veles]

How do i work towards self acceptance ? i know the right thing to do is that but my past mistakes and my flaws and things i hate about myself and everything just does not leave my mind and it completely outweighs everything and anything good feels non existent and i feel as if there’s no way out and honestly it makes me contemplate suicide. it makes me go deeper into depression. the amount of hatred it makes me have for myself and this feeling i have of feeling unworthy and alone is unbearable at times it’s just like i’d rather just run away and change everything about myself or just disappear . what can i do ?

You have no choice but to accept. You probably realize this yourself, but you can't change anything even if you die. What you have done cannot be erased from history, whether you are alive or not. Accept it, it happened, period, move on, you can be angry, cry, but no emotion will help you, only acceptance of what happened, just as it is. You can become better so as not to make new tragic mistakes, but you cannot fix what happened.

We are not in a game, everyone should understand this, our every action or inaction has an end result. People do not often think about this, they think that they can fix something later, but this is not true.

Unfortunately, we won't be able to live our lives perfectly, with no regrets.

 

[MercuryWisdom]

How do i work towards self acceptance ? i know the right thing to do is that but my past mistakes and my flaws and things i hate about myself and everything just does not leave my mind and it completely outweighs everything and anything good feels non existent and i feel as if there’s no way out and honestly it makes me contemplate suicide. it makes me go deeper into depression. the amount of hatred it makes me have for myself and this feeling i have of feeling unworthy and alone is unbearable at times it’s just like i’d rather just run away and change everything about myself or just disappear . what can i do ?

I think one of the best skills that helped me improve my life, advance, and be productive, is self-forgiveness and self-compassion.

I’m still learning all this, for years and years I was so cruel towards myself and critical towards any mistakes I do or did.

You have no idea how much I hated myself, and how cruel I was to myself, and I still struggle with all this. In a masochistic way and with depression, somehow you get addicted to these feelings.

Recently, I’ve been able to figure out that cruelty towards myself doesn’t make me do better, it just sabotages any progress I made or was able to make.

I knew it logically before, we all do, but understanding it deep in my psyche, and my daily actions reflecting this makes all the difference

In comparison, with self-compassion everything flows better and the results accumulate and with patience they lead to success.

An example for this, if I eat a pizza after a week of dieting in the past I would feel so bad about this and what I’ve done, so I make sure that I binge, to make it “worth it”, I wouldn’t just eat a pizza, I would get the largest option available, add fries, add a sweet pie, and chicken nuggets, just to make sure that I drown myself in the overindulgence for a few moments and eat until I was sick, then feel bad later.

Nowadays, I just eat a pizza once in a while, and just feel full that I don’t even complete it, and I don’t feel bad about it, because I trust in the progress I’m making in the gym, in my daily walking, and in the decent home made food I’m eating.

Same situation with my to do list, it’s okay if I skip a couple tasks every once in a while.

I’m getting much better results and without stress.

It’s important to forgive yourself and try to treat yourself with the same empathy and compassion to a struggling friend.

You’re worthy and awesome, be patient and take it step by step, and miracles can happen, the small daily steps will make you reborn in all the positive ways.

You’re doing your best, so take your time, invite structure, write your goals, and take steps to achieve them.

 

[Aorphis]

The best thing about accepting it is the unavoidable realisation that the present rules the future. Detach from the pain and step within the fire of your own light.