Grief

[HPS Lydia]

I have personally experienced grief and loss before, hence my advice. Especially as you kept taking out your anger on fellow SS, using them as your personal punching bag. A few weeks to deal with grief works for a lot of people, so don't think I was trying to push you away. My advice was out of caring, but I see that it was a waste of my time if you're going to take it the wrong way.

 

[Aquarius]

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I have personally experienced grief and loss before, hence my advice. Especially as you kept taking out your anger on fellow SS, using them as your personal punching bag. A few weeks to deal with grief works for a lot of people, so don't think I was trying to push you away. My advice was out of caring, but I see that it was a waste of my time if you're going to take it the wrong way.

Your opinion is no longer wanted or appreciated!!!

This is rather a pathetic reply, Lydia just wanted to help you, and staying here literally caused you to insult Maxine and others, so that's why she mentioned that you should perhapd take some time off. Your last replies show that you're not still in the right headspace.

 

[Siatris Ioholo]

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Try listening to Lydia's advice. She means you no harm. We all screw up sometimes.
Clear your head and focus on meditation for a while.

 

[Blitzkreig [JG]]

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I have personally experienced grief and loss before, hence my advice. Especially as you kept taking out your anger on fellow SS, using them as your personal punching bag. A few weeks to deal with grief works for a lot of people, so don't think I was trying to push you away. My advice was out of caring, but I see that it was a waste of my time if you're going to take it the wrong way.

Your opinion is no longer wanted or appreciated!!!

HPHC offered his advice to stay around here based on the idea that being in a positive environment would prove beneficial. Lydia offered her advice to do the opposite because you were inadvertently letting your frustration out on others.

Other SS can be a good influence on you, but not if you are simultaneously fighting with them and ruining your relationship. However, this is a problem caused by direct interaction with others, not simply by reading the forums. I would suggest logging out if you want to remain without conflicts.

As a community, JOS can provide a lot emotionally, but it is also restricted by being an anonymous digital platform. Nobody from here can come to give you the hugs you may need, for example. In a similar manner, not seeing the person you are talking to also makes it easier to fight with them.

Your response here to Lydia shows that you are still dealing with the emotions surrounding the loss of family, and it is bubbling over and out onto others. I am sure Lydia will again be understanding here, but you also have to take steps to fix the situation as well.

Lydia's advice was perfectly reasonable and is now validated by the events of this thread. She was trying to help you focus on resolving your feelings constructively. Instead of interacting here, where you may fight with Lydia and others, you should ask your brother if you can spend more time with him.

 

[Alexandros Iowno [JG]]

Mourning your own is consuming the karma, the emotion the energy. Ignoring it and entertaining it with the others is ignoring it, you understood the opposite.

However, nobody told you to do something or whatever but did give you advice. You are free to do as you see fit, such as drinking like a fool or whatever.

Yes you can be judged in these harder times of yours as well, and there are good and bad ways of dealing with this. And this can only be known by you.

In the end, after such a situation in your life, you still are not exempt from life's dealings. Nobody pauses time or whatever, and the empathy people express is also very organic to your situation.

Being with no parents, now without a sister does make you either extremely strong or opposite. You have to choose which one. Be a man, and do your duty to yourself and deceased family members.

Exerting this strong reaction within yourself unto others is pointless and fruitless. If you were for example, to glorify these feelings of rebellion in working for money or whatever, you'd have a lot of success. Etc.

As a note on this, for people who experience the same in life. The answer is not an empathic moon energy, as the tragedy in itself needs a lot of disciplinary action to refuse stupid outcomes out of these things. A strong masculine presence can help. Everyone has a friends such as so or whatever can get advice from such people.

Normally in men this presence of masculine spirit is awakened in tragic times, but it cannot be always perfected or on the right direction.

 

[Sundara]

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I have personally experienced grief and loss before, hence my advice. Especially as you kept taking out your anger on fellow SS, using them as your personal punching bag. A few weeks to deal with grief works for a lot of people, so don't think I was trying to push you away. My advice was out of caring, but I see that it was a waste of my time if you're going to take it the wrong way.

Your opinion is no longer wanted or appreciated!!!

This is rather a pathetic reply, Lydia just wanted to help you, and staying here literally caused you to insult Maxine and others, so that's why she mentioned that you should perhapd take some time off. Your last replies show that you're not still in the right headspace.

Not to be for or against anyone but just as an informative bit to whoever - just in general of course someone isn’t going to be “in the right headspace” depending on the level of loss and nor do they have to be. It doesn’t make someone crazy, wrong, and everyone has a right to tell someone to frig off however rude or unreasonable it seems. If someone doesn’t want to talk to someone or doesn’t want advice you just leave them alone. Sometimes people need emotional support. Living in the shit-bucket of leftist extremists taught me the long term inhuman effects of the classic very Christian sounding and always pushed vehemently “get in the right headspace, you’re not in the right headspace, mental health this and that” mind games, excessive focus on not being perfectly respectful, trying to demean someone’s word or deem them incapacitated due to a minor emotion isn’t healthy. A lot of the leftys have that white and dead plastic quality that’ve been born and bred that way. Not to say I know the situation or to butt in. Just an opportunity to share information here. No one has to make passive aggressive jabs or anything. People need to find friends for this kind of thing off the forums though because the forums aren’t the right place always for working through personal emotions.