Other #77137 Should we accept our flaws? When?

[AskSatanOperator]

I'm not sociable. My social skills are not great. (I have a good, small social circle I am very happy with.) I'm particularly bad with words, and that's the biggest reason I'm unsociable. I hate talking, listening and writing.
The thing is, I'm not at all interested in improving in these areas. Should I? Society seems to think so. I would like honest Zevist perspectives on this.
I spent (wasted imo) some years trying to improve, but any progress felt bleh and unrewarding. I'm not proud, more like resentful.
I had natal Mercury conjunct a bad star. I have recently finished a Munka working to free this planet, resulting in me becoming much more assertive, seeing where I needed to detach from some people, and speak more freely (where it could be considered rude). I am delighted with these results.
But as for social skills and communication, is it okay to not want to improve this?

 

[OttoHart]

You put in real effort to change it, from energy (workings) to thoughts (journaling, planning, visualization, hypnosis, deprogramming) and actions (talking to people, going out of your comfort zone), etc.
There is very little about oneself that can't be changed by changing your actions, mentality, or directing energy towards the goal of change.
The time you've already spent working on this is irrelevant, and saying "I already did work to fix this and it didn't work, so I won't do any more" is a fallacy. To stop is not acceptance, it is giving up.

For direct advice on this, take an approach that is layered with energy, thoughts and actions. Additionally, wait for a good time to do a Mercury Square and do one. Expect challenge and pushback, prepare and overcome it.

Acceptance only comes in the case of things like physical traits, that would take more than one lifetime to truly correct, or in realizing that something truly is not a flaw, and accepting that part of oneself. Since social skills are a necessary part of a healthy human, this is likely not something you should be accepting.

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

I hate talking

The problem of people who cannot speak is not knowing how to use their voice. First of all, many people mistake the tone in which they emphasize certain concepts. Some even go so far as to use a monotonous tone of voice that is annoying just because they do not want to manage their emotions. There is also the body language part, certain gestures can emphasize concepts and moods. Just like what happens in the theater.

Another thing to consider is pausing while you're trying to find the words. Many people prolong the ending of a word when they can't think of the next word. Very annoying, better to replace this with silence and make up your mind. Also because it helps to maintain a charismatic tone. Think of dubbing for example. In these pauses they take their breath, they are not random pauses improperly placed.

listening

This is a matter of patience and interest. You can learn from a story that someone shares. If you don't care, you don't have to converse. Many things I know because I used to listen to others talk about the things they were good at.

writing

Here the problem lies in the wording of the sentences. Long sentences full of details and digressions are useless. They are also tiring and therefore annoying to transpose. Good writers use to be direct. Getting lost in a single sentence that contains hundreds of words and incisions to express a simple concept is just tedious and does not make your message beautiful. Such a thing is just scattershot. There are also uses of terms that should be abolished “I thought about the fact that I was sick.” No, say directly “I thought I was sick.”

My social skills are not great

You have to do training if you want to improve them.

I'm not at all interested in improving in these areas

It's up to you of course, but consider that somehow you will have to be useful to society if you want to coexist with it. So you will be forced to communicate with other members of that society to collaborate in improving it. Saying the usual phrase “never mind, don't feel forced, you can reintroduce yourself to your room and it's okay if it makes you feel comfortable” is just misleading. Human civilization has historically progressed as written and oral forms of communication were improved. And this is true for all races.

But as for social skills and communication, is it okay to not want to improve this?

Now it's up to you.